Missed period, very down

[Frothycoffeegirl]

I wonder if anyone can put my mind at rest. I missed my period this month (it is now 10 days late and I don't think I've ever been this late, especially since having DD 3 yrs ago). We've been TTC, and this is the 3rd month of trying. My cycles are around 35 days. I've taken numerous pregnancy tests, all are -ve. Also just recovered from a virus, which horribly gave me early pregnancy symptoms such as nausea and bloated feeling. Cruel virus! I'm 36 and really worried that I'm having an early menopause or something. I've been stressing a little about getting pregnant, but am not working at the moment, just looking after DD. Went to Dr yesterday, who said these things happen, sometimes people miss periods. But surely with my age there is a likelihood there is something wrong... So, my questions are, has anyone just missed a period for no reason before? What could this be? Am feeling very depressed about the whole thing.

Frothy, try not to worry. Easier said than done I know, but I'm in a similar position, (35, ttc, been trying for about 11 months now) and it's so hard not to feel down each month, particularly when your period is late and therefore gets your hopes up. But 3 months is not long to be trying, and tbh the more stressed you get, the more likely you are to be late!

Hang on in there, relax and it will happen

Thank you so much for your kind words... I just feel like I'm so alone and if I try to talk about it with DP he starts sounding v. irritated, especially as I'm constantly worrying. Today I've had a few weird pains near what I would think are to the left of my ovaries - it's not pain that stops me from doing things but it's enough to make me wonder, 'oooh, what the hell was that?' I keep thinking what if I'm missing something awful, that if I don't get it investigated I'll become infertile... I know what I'm saying sounds ludicrous... but once I start searching the internet for 'missed period' loads of info comes up about some awful conditions.

DON'T Google! Bad idea

IKWYM about talking to other people - it's so hard when it's something we think about all the time. But you have to be aware that blokes can feel really pressurized if you bring it up too much, which is not helpful! I moan to my (close) friends and poor ol' mumsnetters from time to time but tbh I find that the more I talk about it the more low I get - I'm better off just keeping myself busy and trying to relax. It's really hard, I do understand - but try

Frothycoffeegirl, best advice I got from a dr was don't search the internet for a diagnosis, you will be sure your dying by the time you are finished. I am sure everything is fine with you, it is not unusual to miss a period especially if you're stressed, I wouldn't assume you are going through the menopause just because you missed a period!! You are only 36 for goodness sake. Hope everything works out for you. XX

Thank you thank you to both of you! You are both so right, this googling has done me no good at all. Blackmagic, do you look at conception section on MN too? I even think that looking there is getting to me, helping me to obsess more. Perhaps a self imposed ban of MN conception section might help me too! I think I just needed to hear some logical words, it's a lethal combination of my own paranoia (sp?), my DP is away tonight and with only the internet for answers. Right, going to try to keep busy busy busy and keep your 'You're only 36 for goodness sake' in the back of my mind!

Frothy, for exactly the reasons you say, I don't often look at, and virtually never post on, the conception boards - too easy to get drawn in and obsessed!! Glad you are feeling more positive - much more likely to happen IMHO . Let's hope it happens soon for us both, but let's also promise not to let life slide by whilst we're "waiting"

frothy i was in the sameposition as you 2 weeks ago only i was 8 weeks late and being infertile i knew deep down i wasn't pregnant. i am 31 and was out of my mind with worry and made myself quite ill.I took myself to the doctors and I had to do a pregnancy test so they could rule out an eptopic. I was almost relieved when my blood tests came back to say my thyroid is underactive and wil be the cause of my irregular periods, after i was less stressed i then came on my period, so if you can try not worry and see your doctor dont stress and worry like i did....good luck