Test results: scared now

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I had a gynae procedure at the beginning of this month and A biopsy was taken. I originally thought that the proceedure would be the worst bit but after the op the consultant really confused me about the biopsy results. I felt he was swinging about as to whether I should be worried or not - one minute saying it didn't look cancerous and then ending by saying 10% chance it will be which is about 100 x higher than I'd been led to expect. Anyway, I still haven't been sent an appointment to get the results and it's driving me mad. Christmas is nearly a right off. Up until about 3 days ago I was doing really well with coping by my standards. My husband is also on a waiting list to have a life saving operation at the mo. He's being very good dealing with himself and I know I can talk to him, although he comes from a family that doesn't share about things like that and has a stiff upper lip attitude that has led to catastrophe in the past.

My eldest dc is at uni and has mild aspergers and my younger dc is doing GCSE s this year.

I just needed to share with someone not in rl.

I'm so sorry you are having to endure all this, and especially at Christmas.
Your consultant doesn't sound like the worlds best communicator. All I can recommend is that you try ( Ha! Easier said than done, I know!) to postpone your worry and say to yourself that you're going to have a good Christmas and you'll start worrying again in the New Year. Give yourself, your husband and family the gift of a lovely Christmas. There's not a lot that can happen in the next couple of weeks, so reclaim the time and make it yours!
You may have something that is very treatable, so don't turn yourself inside out with worry in the meantime.
Best wishes to your husband. He sounds lovely and easy to talk to!
Big hugs!

Thank you so much for the reply. I was sort of going nutty just these last few days worrying. I can talk to my family but sometimes if they seem concerned I worry even more if you see what I mean! I was waiting for the first investigation this time last year. I just can't believe its another Christmas where I'm being a bit of a zombie. My dcs should have no idea I'm worried at the mo and fortunately seem quite laid back about Christmas stuff this year.

You poor thing. Ring your GPs in the morning to ask if they have been sent your results. Im waiting for a gynea referral where they may biopsy so Im scared too and can relate to how you are feeling. Try to shove it all out of your head. Its the only way to stay sane while you are waiting.

I am in same boat also though different part of body so understand your fears. Hopefully we are all fine! We are going to have another Xmas later when its all over and we can relax.

Sorry you have so much going on at the same time but your hubby is a good un eh? (Mine too phew!)

My thought, after years of test result stuff, is that if it was something 'orrible, they'd have told you by now. Still not good to keep you waiting, though. Treatments for most scary stuff are hugely better than they used to be, though. I'd say GothM has the right idea with ringing the GP to ask if they can get the result for you, to put your mind at rest.

Went to gp this morning about different prob. Nothing doing.

My dh has a totally different philosophy to me about dealing with things which used to annoy me. But since his illness, an emergency out of the blue, which he faced with stoicism, I try to look at it in a more open minded way and see if I can apply some bits to me!

Good like allypally, and anyone else in this situation now or atany other time of the year!

Good luck I meant, stupid autocorrect

Just to say, still nothing in post today re my follow up appointment. Rang and rang gynae dept in hospital, no answer. Finally, rang gp and asked if they'd had my results. Benign. Can't believe it still. Way to go to the consultant though for really confusing me. Obviously you want your surgeon to be good at doing the practical stuff but so many need to work on their bedside manner skills. Him and his female underling treated me as if my worries were inconvenient to them. The sonographers and all the people at day surgery, nurses and anaesthests were completely the opposite!

I've spent Christmas alternately pushing it out of my mind and trying to analyse his few post op sentences to me. Puts teenage angst about what boys meant when they'd say "I'll ring you" into perspective, lol!

Ps. Hoping for good news for the others of you in similar situations.

It's good news that all is ok.

FWIW I have had 2 biopsies- uterine lining- and assume that is what you had done? One was done in the surgery and another was done as part of a hysteroscopy without a GA. On each occasion I received the results within about 4 days- my consultant phoned me. I have to say that this was privately, which would have made a difference.

All I can say in defence of your treatment is that if they find anything then you tend to be informed asap- so 'n news IS good news'- and the theoretical chance of cancer is something like 10% I think for women with abnormal bleeding so I suppose he was only being honest with that, unless he said otherwise then changed his mind! No need for the poor bedside manner though. TBH I'd feed that back to your GP because patients do have a choice of which consultant to see - even on the NHS- and poor feedback could well mean another woman would be sent to someone nicer.