d/d eye test she is playing at wanting glasses help!!

[lovingbarney]

d/d went for eye test first one ever. she was very tired after school but wouldn't say letter it was massive and wouldn't point to card with letter on it. d/d3 knew which one. nightmare as i know she can read and say her numbers she wants glasses for some reason. rebooked optician was great very patient nightmare rebooked for a saturday so not so tired after school on a saturday and will practise at home. she knows her letters and numbers she could even had done phonics she wouldn't do that. I didn't show my annoyance still got ice cream afterwards i don't know any suggestions please

Um, I was once a bit like your dd - I 'borrowed' an old pair of my mother's glasses and actually wore them to school! I so wanted to be like my mummy and wear glasses. They were so strong I can remember them making the floor look all bendy. Can't remember how my mum resolved it, tbh, maybe the teachers had a word. Hope it goes well on Saturday, think you are right that being tired after school doesn't help in getting them to co-operate.

If she won't co-operate on a reading test they should be able to check her eyesight by putting drops in and looking through an ophthalmoscope or whatever they call it.

Totally understand.
Ds 2.8 cross eyed..
Took time off work to take him to hospital to see "eye doctor".
He refused to do any of her tests.
Was LIVID.
Total waste of time.
But remained calm, so that did not create atmosphere / fear for future visits.

Children will never do it, when you want them to, will they ?
I think opticians etc, know this.
Do not worry.
Don't do anything or say anything .
Just take her on sat, and see how she goes.

neither of us wear glasses i think she is testing the boundaries of if i don't cooperate what will happen she is very good normally. I know it is not but is it sort of clever in a way to get her own way. None of her friends wear glasses it is weird.

frogs optician is going to test her again give it another try and if not then eye drops to check what she has to. obl and edam thanks for replies. she is only 5 and one of the young ones in her year but looks older and acts in normally .

lovingbarney, I'm an optometrist and we get this all the time! The frames are just too trendy! Your optometrist will have seen it all before. If they don't co-operate there are "tricks" we can use to figure out whether specs are needed ( although it sounds like your dd is probably fine!) and whether they are acting up. For example I have a lens with no power at all in it and most children who have a problems will say that it makes no difference to their vision whereas a child who is pretending to need specs will say that it improves their vision. You have to be sneaky in this job sometimes!

I know when I got glasses I was keen on having them because I could not see, mum mistook this for just wanting glasses, tried to persuade the optician that I was making it up. They said they can tell even if you fib and pretend not to see letters. Mum was in denial about my obvious need for my glasses until i was 16 and the optician had to take her to one side and explain!

Ack sorry lovingbarney was just telling a story, not implying you don't believe your dd x

no worries smurfgirl get your point. chipmonkey reassuring to know you have seen it all before.

have decided to leave next appt for 2 weeks and practise going for eye test at home letters and numbers on wall. etc..... make a game of it.

going to calm down about it and see what happens on sat appt less tired. thanks for advice.

chipmonkey, don't you just love malingerers? I once had to re-examine a child who insisted on wearing a frame from the optical with demo lenses in it while she sat behind the phoropter!

A little girl came in to me once complaining about not being able to read the blackboard in school. She sat up on the chair and before I had a chance to say a word, she began with :
"Now, my Nana has pink glasses and I like them but I don't want brown glasses like Stephen because I don't think they'd suit me....." and went on for quite a while. She couldn't read anything on the chart but retinoscopy showed plano R+L and she was able to tell me that I had spelt her name wrongly on the computer which was quite a way away from her!
They are mostly fashion-conscious little girls!

get her a pretend pair, see if that solves it. They're great fun to play with.

Then she can pour a glass of ribena for wine, use the shower attachment as a telephone and use a pen as a cigarette - that's what I used to do

lol at your fashion conscious girl, chipmonkey. It is much more prevalent in girls, that's for sure!