Just been told I SNORE horrifically. Want to cry.

[KoalaDownUnder]

I'm a 41-year-old woman, in extremely good health.

• Not overweight at all (at lower end of healthy BMI). Work out 4-5 times per week, weights and cardio. Eat well. Never been in hospital in my life.

• No known allergies or asthma

• Never had issues with tonsils or adenoids.

• Don't smoke. Rarely drink alcohol, and haven't been drinking on the nights in question.

My partner has just asked me if I'd consider having an operation for my snoring (?!). I'm mortified. My ex had this op, but he was a fairly unfit, slightly overweight man who drank and smoked. He had large amounts of his soft palate removed, and it made a huge difference. Surely I can't need this, though?!

Besides 'see a doctor', does anyone have any suggestions or experience with this?

I've been told the same and frankly it stopped me from sleeping as I was so embarrassed.

Are you absolutely knackered?

Could the position you sleep cause it?

I'm really embarrassed, too, and wondering if it's why he doesn't want to sleep over more often!

I was absolutely knackered last time we slept in the same bed, yes. I hadn't had much sleep the night before, and had worked out hard at the gym.

I never sleep on my back, which is the worst position for snoring; I can only get to sleep on my side. I guess I could be rolling onto my back in the night, though.

Just don't know what to do about this.

I only sleep on my side too but I think I am putting my head in a position where my throat snores.

I'd say it's caused by extreme tiredness. I think I've stopped now. Get a really early night the night before he comes again. There are sprays and then there's a thing to put across the bridge of your nose

I think you're right - the snoring does seem to correlate with being really tired. Pretty bloody difficult to avoid, for most of us!

I might go to the chemist and pick up one of those nose strips.

Actually, I've just remembered that my dentist said I also have bruxism (grinding teeth at night). I'm supposed to get a mouth guard made for that, too.

Gee, sexy.

Sounds to me like he just needs to get over himself! So you snore. So what. I just laugh it off and say I'm purring like a baby kitten. No, my husband says, it sounded like someone murdering a pig.

I downloaded an app once which recorded any sounds made through the night. I think it was meant to record sleep talking. Turned out the recording was really boring with lots of silence. Maybe try something like this so that you know for sure what you are dealing with.

You know, a recording app is an excellent idea. Thank you!

A friend of mine tried this app and says it was really useful
www.snorelab.com/#articles
It sortof tracks your snoring.

Husband says this to me too, I've told him to get over it. Not helpful I know as this sounds like someone you are dating so I assume you want to make a good Impression. I looked into the operation for me, Consultant made it very clear to me that it was a very serious operation, hideously painful recovery with very little promise of success and that I have very narrow sinuses. I told DH to wear earplugs, he refused. DH snores but am lucky I guess that I'm not bothered by the sound.

mini, yes, there's no way I'm even considering the operation - an ex of mine had it (because he snored like a piece of earthmoving equipment!) and it was highly successful, but extremely painful.

The BF has since told me he was only joking ( hilarious) and it's not that bad, but I'm still embarrassed.

I have noticed that I have no sinus problems during the day, but sometimes wake up with a blocked nose lately, which doesn't seem right. Am starting to think there is an allergen in my bedroom. Woollen underlay on the bed, perhaps? Not sure...

Are you sleeping with the windows open?

I always wake up with a stuffy nose when I've left the window open all night for some unknown reason.

I'm sleeping with them shut, The Doctor. In an ideal world, I'd actually prefer them open (love some fresh air at night), but my bedroom window faces a noisy car park and it's just too much, even with earplugs in.

Here's something (slightly gross) that's occurred to me, though - I have been having severe night sweats for the past few months. Sometimes I worry that my bedroom is kind of damp. Even though I keep the windows open all day.

Ugh. Maybe my sinuses are blocking up at night.

Severe night sweats do need a trip to the doctor. They can be a sign of many serious illnesses including TB. Snoring I wild record and see if a change in positin might help. But the ngiht sweats need investigated.

holidaysarenice, I've been wondering about that. I haven't been to d the doctor about it yet, mostly because of my age - at 41, everything seems to get attributed to 'pre-menopause' (even though my periods are the same as they always were, and I have no menopausal symptoms).

Lately, I probably get night sweats 3-4 times a week, and they're severe enough to wake me up soaking wet. I can feel the sweat running in beads down my back, and sometimes have to get up and change my pjs.

Actually, it doesn't sound good, when I put it like that.

I don't have hot flushes at any other time of day, either. And I'm not hot when I have the night sweats...I actually wake up freezing cold and shivering.

just tell him to gently shove you to turn over

He does that, mrsbrowns, and he said it works. I just feel bad about waking him in the first place...he works ridiculous hours and has anxiety & sleep problems himself.

don't feel guilty ! he will be half asleep when he shoves you. Ask me how I know

DH has a massive snoring problem. We've tried everything including a referral to ENT. The consultant told us that surgery is really painful with only a very low success rate after 5 years.
White noise (a fan for us) helps but the only solution when it gets really bad is a separate bedroom.

Ha! Yes, I am sure he is half asleep when he shoves me, but to be fair, I also know that he has bad sleep issues of his own. If something wakes him, he can be up for the rest of the night.

I just can't understand why I'd develop this problem after being fine my whole life! (My ex-BF, on the other hand, had been a snorer for years and years before I met him, and the surgeon said he had a huge soft palate.)

koala please please go see the doctor about those night sweats. I would Not put the down to pre menopause just yet!

Any other symptoms, fevers, cough, weight loss?

I will hound you if you don't!!!