What do you do when you are ill?

[ghosty]

Just wondering actually. Warning: this is a bit of a moany thread ....
For a usually healthy and energetic person I am feeling pretty crap - have caught the winter bug that every child and his brother in NZ has at the moment (I usually manage to avoid most bugs). All I want to do is have a day or two off, in bed, with something to read, nothing to do and someone to look after me.
Before children I would take time off work if I felt ill. When I was at school/college I would have a day off, stay in bed, be looked after by my mum etc. When my children are ill they are lovingly cared for by yours truly, paracetamol administered, soft boiled eggs with soldiers made and cuddled when they ask. When DH is ill he takes a couple of days off, lies in bed, sleeps, reads, gets fed blah blah.
I feel rotten ... still have to do packed lunch, school run, washing, shopping, etc etc. DH can't take time off (he is in his last week of his current job - off to Aus on Sunday) - not that he takes time off if I am ill anyway but hey ho ... He DID come home at 3pm today ... "I've come home early for you" but promptly went out to mow the lawn and I still had to go out with DD to get DS and buy cat food. I did however, go on strike from 5pm and went to bed, leaving him to do the children's dinner and the bath/bed thing.
Have just dragged myself up to take a peek at the party bag thread (PMSL) ... and thought I would have a moan ...
What do you other mums do when you feel poorly and just want the world to go away?????

have to carry on!!.........my dh did take time off after my operation last month, but gerneally id rather slack at work than be at home and having to deal with the kids whilst ill. if i stay at home they jsut want me to be with them all the time (fair enough when im not ill...) but hard when i am!

good luck!!!

p.s. i know what u mean about dh's!

maon and try and carry on, just like you are doing, it sucks but it's the unfair bit of being the woman I reckon

it's like when you gop on holiday to a cottage or something, it ain't a holiday for you cause you still do all the washing cooking and caring for everyone just like at home

Glad I am not the only one ... I once worked with a bloke who took sick leave when his wife was ill so that he could look after the children while she went to bed. It happened at least once a year - but then he was a teacher and had loads of time off in the school holidays too.

Obviously DH would take time off if I was seriously ill ... at least I hope he would (lol). He didn't work for nearly 6 weeks after DS was born because of the trauma I had and DS's illness and my PND etc ... luckily he had a very understanding boss then.
But sometimes, just sometimes, it would be really lovely for someone to put me to bed with a hot toddy and do everything - just for a couple of days ... sigh ...

Same here - I moan, feel sorry for myself and carry on. Agree it would be lovely for someone to say just have a day off and relax.

yep, sounds familiar. I did once have a terrible migraine, vomiting, up all night, flashing lights etc. and got my mum to come down (2 1/2 hour drive - she is a star) - but that only happened once. And she got stuck on the motorway and it took 5 hours, so by the time she got there I was just about functioning anyway - sod's law.

Can you send the children off to spend some time with friends to give you a break?

at DH coming home then mowing the lawn! Such a man thing...

trinity, know what you mean about the "holiday" - sometimes you come home more knackered than before you started...

I did actually send the kids to a friend yesterday afternoon - not because I felt ill but because I needed to work ... so I used up that life line this week already and I really owe her one ...
I am off to bed now ... got a large lemsip with a huge slug of whiskey in it ... should sort me out
Night x

not been well past couple of days and all I have done is lay on the couch unless the kids have needed something. Bit easier as mine are only young so can entertain themselves in the living room and lots of tv. I havent been out or even dressed for 2 days so dh has had to pick up bits of shopping etc on his way home then when he gets home I have retreated to bed.

I think the word is initiative....if only our dh/dp's could put that into play, we could feel more comfortable about being 'ill'....IYSWIM!
Clairemow - I had a migraine on Friday (the full works) and my dd (2.5) with me - horrendous. I rang up dh at work and wondered if was able to leave work at the normal time and not work late...'I'll try' was his response as I'm honking up and unable to feel the left side of my body!!!!!

have to get on with it i am afraid

My DH works silly times, but still sometimes manages to take a bit of time off when I'm ill. His work has an emergency daycare they pay for, so we pop DS2 in there if I'm ill enough (it's not a great place, but it's safe). I dump DS1 on anyone who will take him. I've hired emergency nannies when ill, too, called in various nannies and au pairs of friends, whatever it takes.

But then, the last few years, I find myself getting really ill once or twice a year, can't get out of bed, can't do anything, so I've had to find the options.

Last time I was ill dh was working away. I phoned a friend and she took ds to school, picked him up and took him swimming. Brought him back in time for bed. Dd watched a lot of cbeebies!

If I'm very ill, I call a babysitter and go to bed. Will even sometimes get the babysitter to do a few errands - like trip to chemist for medicine or quick food shop. But, as a single mum I don't have a dp/dh who can help out and also live on a different continent to family.

Hope you feel better soon.