11 year old still bed wetting - can anyone help??

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My dd is 11 and still wetting the bed EVERY night - v. bad last few days.
We have tried the following
medication from GP which stopped bedwetting but made her feel sick and she suffered headaches
referral to clinic which specialises in this and was given buzzers and charts - complete failure and clinic actually said nothing more they could do and suggested homeopathy
Have been going to homeopathy for 14 months(privately at ?45 per go ) no success either
DD is a twin and she feels this particularly cos her twin sister not only not wets the bed but can do most things better than she can.
DD is now being referred to a child psychologist due to lack of self confidence and poor self worth ie thinks that the family would all be better off without her as she is useless at everything - shes not!!
Can anyone help I am willing to look at any suggestion as we are at the end of or tether.
My mum says that it is something that she will eventually grow out of - is she right??
thanks for listening

My dsis has special needs and wet the bed for a long time, can't remember what age. A family friend at the time had had the same problems with her ds ( I think aged 10ish) She recommended a cassette that had worked for her ds. AFAIK it was a hypnotherapy tape. My mum used to play it by my dsis's bed just as she was nodding off and IIRC it was a man with a soothing voice telling her that when her bladder was full she would wake up and go to the toilet. It definitely worked.

I have an 11year old dd who regularly floods too! It is so reassuring to read others' experiences. I would appreciate knowing more about the developmentAL delay??

I'm aware of a 'child' who had to be lifted approx 10pm each night to go to the loo, to reduce this problem, up to age 15. Eventually she did just grow out of it.
I found the 'wet-stop' invaluable in solving this problem in my daughter, age 7.
I think the key is not to transfer your anxiety onto your daughter. It will only make her feel worse.
She will grow out of it eventually, so just support her until that time.

My DD12 is taking Lyrinel to help with this. She’s been referred to the hospital & has regular appointments to monitor the situation.

We were advised to up her fluids & for her to make sure she sits on the loo & counts to 20 to make sure she’s emptied her bladder.

My DD was still wet tong the bed at 11. We had done absolutely everything to stop it and nothing worked, not alarms not desmopresson NOTHING. Our paediatrician told me that if nothing worked it would stop automatically when she hit puberty and low and behold at 11.5 I saw the first signs of puberty and we hve not had a wet bed since. It’s hormone driven and obviously took that long for the hormone to kick in.

As Yvest says, it's hormone-driven so there's not a lot you can do about it. It's also genetic - so the time when this hormone puts in an appearance is down to genes. I blame my ex for 2 of our DCs wetting until 11 or 12. It was a nightmare but they do grow out of it. The other DC announced at 2 (2 FFS!!!!) that she no wanted a nappy a night - and she NEVER wet the bed from then on (obviously my genes ).

My DS is 10 and still wets the bed, he is currently on desmopressin, sometimes it helps other times it doesn’t. Drs are now saying it’s part of his ASD, I don’t know enough about it to say if it’s true. I know I never wet the bed, my brother did every now and then. We just found out DS 11 year old cousin wets the bed still so that made him feel a bit better he wasn’t the only one that did it. I know some people just grew out of it.

Second the ERIC website, very helpful