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If you've been sterilised - how did you know it was the right decision?

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Queen0fFeckingEverything · 28/04/2014 09:45

I'm 33, with 2 DC, and absolutely no plans (or even remote desire) to have any more. My DP is very much in agreement with this, its something we discussed a fair bit and both of us feel that 2 DC is enough for many many reasons. I've been umming and aahing over the right long term contraception since having DS nearly 4 years ago and nothing is right. I don't want anything hormonal, I don't want an IUD, and, er, that seems to rule out reversible options.

Right now, I never want to have another child. The thought of getting pregnant accidentally makes me feel sick and terrified. I'm pretty certain this won't change in the future but... how do I know ? I have no idea what the future holds -maybe I will get overcome with massively strong broodiness in a few years. Is it a case of, if you have any doubts then sterilisation is not the right thing?

But there's also the thought in my mind that actually, I'd quite like to make the decision now while I am feeling rational and logical about it, and then have done with it. It would stop me agonising in future, it would take the decision out of my hands and make it a non-issue.

Anyone else faced/facing this and have any useful advice?

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Queen0fFeckingEverything · 28/04/2014 09:58

I should add that part of the reason I think it might be the right decision is that currently I get massively anxious every single month in case we've had a contraception failure and this is making me pretty miserable and stressed. I spend several days before my period is due panicking and end up buying tests most months to reassure myself, constantly worrying about it if I feel sick or if my coffee tastes horrible etc etc.

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helzapoppin2 · 28/04/2014 18:17

Queen, you don't know for certain, because you don't have a crystal ball, but based on the evidence you have right now, and the way you feel! and the stress it's causing you, I would say have a sterilisation.
You sound like someone who is fairly certain, could make the decision, live with it and move on! You also sound like you want the worry off your mind.
I had Dc2 at 33, and never wanted any more, and after that had an IUD until menopause, which was totally reliable, but it's not for everybody.
My 30's and onwards were completely occupied with bringing up the kids and work. No time to get broody, and no regrets!
I suggest you consult your inner Diva. What does she want? And go forward knowing you can't ever cover every base, but you can make yourself happy right now!

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