Supporting a loved one with stopping smoking

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My DMil stopped smoking yesterday after decades of smoking. She knows about the risks and wants to stop before it kills her basically. Mil is blessed with very good health so we have been nagging her to stop smoking and stop tempting fate iyswim! Anyway what is the best way to support her? She gets very quiet and snappy and I don't know what I should do to help. Do I acknowledge she's struggling or do I just carry on as normal and risk her thinking I'm unsympathetic! argh!! Its a minefield. There is support for smokers but not much advice for their families. Any advice will be great

Watching this with interest. I gave up nearly 10 years ago cold turkey but I don't make a big deal out of it. If I'm honest it was more a financial thing than a health thing. My dh is a very heavy smoker. I hate it but I just refuse to be a nag as other people are to him and it makes him worse. Both his parents gave up last year and his nan even bought him an e-cig for his birthday which stayed in its box for a year he says hes tried it but can't get on with it but I've never seen him use it. I'm now pregnant and the first thing people are saying to him is you'll have to give up now! I have always thought the best approach was to not be self righteous and to just let them do everything at their own pace although putting up with the moods isn't easy. I am a big beliver in the financial aspect being a motivational factor, a friend of mine saved what she used to spend and treated herself to a cruise holiday before long.