Very Embarassing, Help Needed!

[hoolagirl]

I don't know how to put this......
I've always enjoyed you know what and never had any problems with climaxing.
Since a couple of weeks ago, practically overnight I have not been able to climax, I'm starting to get worried, my partner thinks its his fault.
Im hoping its just a phase, but this has never happened to me before and I was wondering if its happened to anybody else and if so, did you get it resolved yourself or did you have to go to the docs?
Could it be a change in hormone levels etc.

could you be pregnant?
Are you stressed, getting over an illness, all these things can change your sex drive

or I am missing the point and you are revved up as it were but can't quite get over the edge?

Im getting all revved up, just not getting to the final destination, im defo not preggy and i've not been ill.

Maybe because this has happen once,every time since you try to hard IYSWIM. Maybe it's more in your head. Have you tried anything to relax more ?

thats a good point, as soon as you start to worry about it, it will be worse
not easy but you need to try and forget about it and not try to aim for that

Would it be very wrong of me to suggest trying alcohol? If your brain is now geared up for anxiety then that might help.

I've tried alcohol but i usually end up having too much and it has the opposite effect...! Maybe try with less!
I can't even manage when im 'solo' (sorry if tmi)
Will try the less alcohol tho!

Does more foreplay help ?

This is sooo embarassing but here goes
I think im just about to and it just doesnt happen, plenty plenty foreplay and the like.

even doing it solo you will be putting too much pressure on yourself, you are going to have to stop trying to 'finish' and concentrate on the doing so that there is no pressure

I never really thought anything of it the first time, then next time i was 'solo' and never happened then, was suprised but never gave it much thought until it happened again, now its getting to be a worry as this really isn't normal for me. I thought it might have a physical cause (ie hormones) but im only 30.

and then maybe not a physical cause as im 'nearly there'...?

I think you should stop trying to finish too. I think you are putting to much though into it.

Maybe deliberately try not to finish, kind of reverse psychology thing?

Thank you everyone for your responses.
Just had to share the good news that i'm very much fixed up better than before!! In fact much much better
I had taken some tablets to stop my periods whilst i went away for a weekend about a month ago and think that could have messed with my hormone levels? (my theory anyway)