Prolapse surgery when you have young children to look after?

[AdamantEve]

Don't want to clog up the prolapse threads with this question so starting my own!

I have a 2.5 year old and a 10 month old and have been seeing a consultant about my rectocele. I need an op to repair it and also to rebuild my perineum.

I understand lifting things after the op is a no-no and am wondering how people with young children managed the recovery phase?

Did you wait until your children were school age? For further info, I'm currently a SAHM and neither child is in nursery etc. The youngest can't walk yet so obviously needs lifted a lot so I'm wondering how long I'll need to defer the surgery for, realistically?

No, I didn't wait. I had a 4year old and 2 year old and a husband that worked away from home.
I ended up sitting on the floor a lot rather than doing things at my own height.
I explained that "Mummy can't lift as she has a sore tummy" and most of the time they understood .They were able to help with a few things too. Some things had to slip for a while- I didn't bath them every night etc.
The very worst thing was hoovering- even 8 weeks post surgery. I hadn't realised how many muscles are involved. Friends were great- anyone who visited was asked to run the hoover round before they had a coffee.
You will need help when you first come home. The 6 weeks recovery phase they tell you about isn't realistic- it's at least double.

I have just had a c section and hysterectomy. I have a newborn, 22 month old and 4.5 year old.

There is no way I can deal with the needs of my toddler without help, changing nappies, lifting into high chair, lifting into bath, getting her dressed is all too much. I could tend to most of my 4 year olds needs after two weeks and TBH could have from the age of 3, once she was toilet trained.

At 18 days post op I can now do washing up, basic tidying, surface wiping, put laundry on, fold clothes etc... No hoovering, lifting shopping, cleaning that requires more bending like the bath.

My DH has had to take unpaid emergency dependents leave to help.

I was looking for just this information! Thank you for posting your question because you're not alone. I have a stage 3 uterine prolapse and I'm seriously considering surgery. When I read the information from the surgeon yesterday I panicked because it mentioned not lifting anything more than 10 lbs for 4-6 weeks, but I have a 10 month old who is 20+ lbs!

How do you manage with young kids after the surgery? How long did it take to be able to sit up normal (I work at a desk all day long) and be able to manage through the day okay (minus the heavy lifting, etc.)? Any information you can provide would be greatly appreciated!

Hi all, im due to have surgery for a rectocele prolapse in october, and wanted to know if it makes the vagina any tighter? As i dont feel anything during sex due to having weak pelvic floor and having 3 vaginal births? Has anyone had the surgery and did it tighten you up down there?