I can't have sex after having my baby.

[BabyPain]

I'm a regular. Have nc.

DD was born 6 weeks ago. I had a 2nd degree tear so nothing extreme but I've tried to have sex with DH twice now and it's excruciating. My stitches are healed but when we try to have sex it feels like my perineum is tearing and we have to stop instantly. We've tried using lots of lube but it doesn't make a difference. Can anyone help?

Friend of mine waited around 6 months.

There is swelling that will take time to heal.

Here is a link I think is helpful: www.babycenter.com/0_lets-talk-about-sex-after-the-baby_11802.bc#articlesection1

because of your tear it may take a little longer. Good on your for trying though. Might be a good thing to try digital exploration first and work up to it?

I had a episiotomy, and had the same problem when we tried to have sex at 6 weeks. I think my body just wasn't ready. We waited until about 3 months after the birth to try again (I was exhausted and DH was worried about hurting me), and things were back to normal. Maybe just give yourself some time?

Agree you need to give yourself a bit longer I had an episiotomy too and waited a good 3 months.

Give yourself a nit longer I'm 8 weeks and haven't dine it yet, that's also because I feel to fat though!

Give yourself a nit longer I'm 8 weeks and haven't dine it yet, that's also because I feel to fat though!

I had a second degree tear with loss of grazing and waited 7 weeks, it was flipping uncomfortable! We tried again another 7 weeks later and everything was totally back to normal. 6 weeks is really early, give yourself a bit longer and maybe go to get checked out if it's not improving.

I agree that you should wait a while (we were about 4 months). It may help if you try inserting a small vibrator or similar first, so that you feel more in control and realise what you can and can't do.

We treated our first post-birth sexual encounter as a purely "fact finding" mission, rather than an opportunity to rekindle romance.