sterilization

[sugarbunza]

Having had 2 kids a boy + girl, and are actively trying for number 3.
We are keen for me to be sterilized after the next.
I wondered how long after birth you can be sterilized,
Also I mentioned it to my GP and he seemed not keen mentioned
My age 32. Too young and i should go away and think about itAnd the fact Im not married what the hell that's got
To do with anything god no's?
Does anybody no how much it would cost private? The pill makes me I'll
Docs no this so had coil and we all no what a pain they can be at times.
Thanks for taking the time to read this any comments will be taken on board x

Think you'll be asked to wait at least six months if you have a vaginal delivery. If having a cs it can be done then.

Couple of points..it's a much less invasive procedure for a man to have a vasectomy so that's worth considering.

Secondly, it's very difficult to be so very sure what you will want in the future. What if, god forbid, something happened to one of your dc?( sorry). Or you began a new relationship with a man who had no children?

These are the kind of things you might get asked. You have to view sterilisation as permanent and non reversible.

Not saying you won't get it, just that you need to be absolutely certain.

Vasectomy may not go into a major body cavity (and can be done without GA), but has a higher complications rate than female sterilisation. It is however safer (1:2000) fail rate, compared to 1:200 for female. But you have to wait for the all clear before yo can rely on it (we're still wating, nearly a year on). Female sterilisation is usually effective from after next period (though Essure method may take longer and require a scan to show tubes occluded - but then fail rate is on a par or lower than that of vasectomy).

For both make and female sterilisation, good practice into counsel the person requesting the OP beforehand, and to wait a year from life-changing events (including births). NHS does have some variation in actual practice though, and private providers may not have that use that guideline at all.

BTW, had you spotted that MN has a contraception topic? I think it would be worth it if you had a browse in there as there are quite a few threads that might help you.

Thanks everyone just to re-cap I lost a baby boy at 3 days old. I've only ever wanted 3 children. I will have a 3rd child I'm hopefull. But I can't express enough how much I do no want to go through childbirth for a fifth time! I do not want anymore children. My partner feels the same. 3 children is what we want. I'm not pregnant yet but I plan for the future. I feel like nobody listens to us. X even if we split up which I doubt as nobody would put up with him lol I would not want more children

We have been together since secondary school. I won't marry as my parents have between them re married a staggering 12 times. X

I feel like if I don't know my own bloody mind at 32 I never will. My mother had a early meanapause and I'm praying it happens to me if I'm honest. Just not before number 3 lol. Id love Adam to have the snip but he wont't as he had a testical removed (not that this has hindered baby progress just takes a bit more trying lol) so yes like no way am I having owt else sniped or taken away down there.... and who can blame him x

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He had cancer at 30 years old. We have been through a lot over the years as G P knows! I'm a bit of a hippy and hate contraception polluting my body I just want my reproductive system gone as soon as after number 3. But its just so difficult to be heard x

I might be wrong, but my understanding was that they would prefer you to wait 6 months in case anything (horrible as this is) anything happens to your baby when they are very young and you may end up regretting your decision. I do sort of get that.

I would keep pressing for a sterilisation. I will be after any DC2. DP doesn't want a vasectomy within a few years, as it would be if we had DC2, and I respect that as he is younger than me and realistically, I could be sure I never want to experience pregnancy and childbirth again even if we split up, whereas the situation is different for a man in his 30s.

Have you considered the diaphragm/cap? The pill and implant etc don't suit me and I don't want the coil as I think I want another DC, which leaves the diaphragm. No one seems to talk about it any more but it is still a valid form of contraception!

I'd love to hear off any one who has gone private, we are not rich live on a Barrett estate and both have average jobs both supervisors but we could save x

You asked about cost if carried out privately: Marie Stopes charges just under £1500

My G P gave me the choice of a diaphragm / coil I went for a coil but I hate it. I've missed 2 days at work due to possitionig. My partner is lucky down below ( in some ways) and he can feel it at times which is a off put. Sorry to be a bit graffic x he hates it more than me. Condoms freak us both out its rediculus, we just want a long term solution. Sorry to moan love x

I wonder if we would be listened to if we went private? It prize pisses me off like the fact me and my partner have played tax all our working lives and the minute we ask for help health wise we get told to ''think about it'' x sorry to go on x

You're not moaning It must be so hard that your GP won't listen to you. Could you try visiting another GP and see if they are more sympathetic?

Found this from Guys & Thomas's hospital, if it helps

Yeh I've thought this too but I wonder if I did if I may get a similar response thanks for taking the time to chat x especially on NY eve xxx

I was sterilised. Best thing I did. I have 2 children, as a diabetic I couldn't do pregnancy again. I was sterilised within a few months of ds2.
Press your gp.insist how you feel. They should let you.

Its just time consuming pestering a GP taking up valuable appointments space having to plead to have something done to my own body. 3 children will be perfect. Surely it counts for something I want my name down already for it before I'm even pregnant??? I think private may be the answer and worth every penny. My sterilization is the answer for us I'm 100%sure. I love all my children the unborn and the passed away Ds x

Oblo music to my fustated ears xx

I just can't understand why my Gp P can't see this 3 children I just feel like saying come on!!! Should both me and my partner go and express our feeling? Adam is a bit of a prude to be honest and doesn't like talking about sex with anybody other tan me. I bet you think we are a right case lol x

He would be so quiet I just no him, I don't think it would help our case x lol x

When adam had cancer he had to tell the hospital about sex and his sperm and he was devastated I did all the talking for him. He hates talking about sex. And women's bit for that matter.

He said he will go for a snip out of jurest but when I'm willing, more than willing why should he? I wish somebody would give me the perfect things to say to GP now when I have DC no 3 I can have op asap!!!! Xxx

Oh and we have a D's and dd .,, so one of each sex not that:-) should matter but again it surely should be in our favour, which is crazy! Crazy country england at times xxx

Here's what I suggest you do. When you are next at the surgery, possibly to confirm your pregnancy , ask your GP to record that you are requesting sterilisation post natally. Mention it again at the end of your pregnancy and also get it recorded on your antenatal records. Mention it often.

Then, post natally, insist that you are referred to a gynae consultant to discuss. It is not up to your GP whether you are a candidate for this surgery since he won't be the one performing it.

Do expect delays and to have to keep repeating yourself but you should definitely get it on the NHS. Please don't feel you need to save up to pay, think of all the money you are saving the system by not having more!