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Does anyone else have this - anxiety related

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Lookingforadvice123 · 21/12/2013 12:55

I've recently accepted that I've got generalized anxiety - I worry and obsess over anything and everything. I'm a problem solver by nature and don't want to live my life this way so I've been to the doctors, who was pretty unhelpful, looked at me with sad eyes and gave me leaflets on group therapy available in my area, which I can't face going to in case I see someone I know. I've downloaded 'Overcoming anxiety' on my kindle, so I'm going to see how I get on.

By the far the worst part of my anxiety is directed at health. Up until recently, it was my own, I'd covinced myself I had MS. Due to recent events this has now transferred to obsessing about my fiancé's health - my MS symptoms have miraculously disappeared.

Does anyone else's anxiety focus on their partner's health rather than their own? We're getting married early next year and my fear of losing him has accelerated. I've just spent the last hour in the hair dresser researching pancreatic cancer, I think this is my cancer of choice as a colleague recently lost her husband to it (he was in his 60s, my OH is 30), together with the fact that it's usually incurable.

My OH has had health 'issues' recently which I won't bore you with the details of as I've already created a thread on them, but the long and short of it is that he's suffering from a mild, sporadic pain in his rib, and has hives due to unknown allergy which are fully treated by a daily antihistamine, but he is otherwise healthy. Doctors and blood tests indicate that there's nothing to worry about. I find myself constantly asking him how is rib is feeling, and researching for hours online what it could be. I'm driving myself, and my poor OH, mother and anyone else who will listen, insane!

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Matildathecat · 21/12/2013 13:19

I have a different condition, but modern medicine, having failed to help me, directed me to mindfulness and I have found it genuinely helpful.

It is hard work, though. It's also something that will be valuable in stressful situations throughout life, so well worth the effort.

www.amazon.co.uk/Mindfulness-practical-guide-finding-frantic/dp/074995308X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1387631704&sr=8-1&keywords=Finding+calm+mindfulness

This book and dc were recommended by my psychologist.

Good luck.

revivingshower · 21/12/2013 15:34

Your dr does not sound very helpful. I don't know a huge amount about this but I have heard CBT (cognative behaviour therapy) can be very helpful. Maybe you could look into that. I am not sure how you would get it except via GP. Can you afford private therapy?

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