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Hysterectomies - it's gotta be done but over here for hand holding part two

992 replies

Oddsocksrus · 09/12/2013 22:57

Over here for the hand holding.
One in five women in the uk will have to have a hysterectomy at some point in their lives.
Come and join us if you are waiting, pre op, bleery eyed on the ward or recovering afterwards.

OP posts:
Kevinsbowel · 23/12/2013 08:21

The bowel has certainly been a Thing. Rhonda- we all had bowels behaving like Kevin the Teenager- hence my username for this.

I don't remember any movement for the first week but I wasn't dealing with any pre existing problems. Personally I didn't bother with movicol and just had a lot of baked fruit.

Kevinsbowel · 23/12/2013 08:21

Santa- how about you? How are you feeling today?

SantasPelvicFloor · 23/12/2013 08:42

Better

I'm so torn between doing very little and doing more. The doing very little seems so passive. I can't believe it's doing me any good

Kevinsbowel · 23/12/2013 08:50

It's hard for us normally busy people to appreciate the role of rest in healing. I think that we tend to focus on the getting active side.

You are just past two weeks? I think at that stage I was content with one longish walk a day, and otherwise I did sod all. And you are behind as you had the week from hell.

SantasPelvicFloor · 23/12/2013 08:52

Define longish :)

SantasPelvicFloor · 23/12/2013 08:53

I don't think I've done a mile yet. Longish is 10 miles for me. Middling is 5 and short is < 3

SantasPelvicFloor · 23/12/2013 08:54

But currently 500yds shuffled = a walk

Kevinsbowel · 23/12/2013 09:03

Longish in this context is once round the park which I guess is about a mile all in. I agree, it's not what either of us would call a long walk normally!

But that sounds about right. First time I went round the park, I had to sit down on the benches every so often and it took me an hour. But yesterday I yomped round it in 30 minutes so I had to go round again :).

Really, it will come with a nice mix of 20 minute exertion and 2 hour rests....

Is the shuffling the bowel or the perineum? I didn't lose the cervix, so you have an extra wound there.

SantasPelvicFloor · 23/12/2013 12:06

That sounds brilliant Kevin. Gives me hope. Not bowel or perineum. I get pulling pain at waist level and just know I need to lie down. It is just my innards needing to knit together so they don't all follow gravity.

Today I do feel slight improvement tbh

Weather utterly dire so I've braved the supermarket as my treat Hmm

Kevinsbowel · 23/12/2013 12:20

That's right, the muscles as I'm sure you know heal by being stressed and then recovering. So the pulling is all part of it, and so is the resting. You really will find that it slowly comes together, and then one day, you jump over the hump and instead of being basically poorly with good bits, you are basically well with poorly bits. And then the poorly bits get shorter.

Have been for a walk, huge wind but not much rain, actually rather satisfying.

Kevinsbowel · 23/12/2013 12:23

I do remember at your stage there was a really weird feeling, as if the organs were settling down into new places. As the internal swelling went down, they were following it, like a barge settling onto silt as the lock gates are opened.

SantasPelvicFloor · 23/12/2013 16:32

Lol!!!! Excellent description

I've been for an afternoon nap. Weather is so vile I'm accepting a life of nothing easily today

shewhowines · 24/12/2013 14:48

Just popping in to wish everyone a lovely (and restful) christmas.

DH has dragged reluctant kids to church with mil. I've just prepared the veg for tomorrow, need to get the kids presents into somewhere accessible for tonight, then i'm ready for the rest of outlaws to descend in a couple of hours time. I'm about ready to hit the festive wine too. Is it too early now?

Merry christmas everyone Xmas Grin

CremolaFirCone · 24/12/2013 15:08

Merry Christmas Shewhowines.
NGrinver to early for wine.
Merry Christmas
Green
King
Lftmad
Odds
Kevin
Santa
Rhondajean
And anyone else I may have forgotten ( my brain is mincemeat today )
Xmas Grin

Waitingaround · 24/12/2013 16:57

Merry Christmas!

Twinkletights · 24/12/2013 17:36

Merry Christmas Xmas Grin x

CremolaFirCone · 24/12/2013 17:51

Oh waiting and twinkle! Happy Christmas .
Here's to a New Year with no vile periods. Yeh!

Kevinsbowel · 24/12/2013 18:03

Happy Christmas, may your bowels be constructive and your children helpful.

Twinkletights · 24/12/2013 18:07

I can't wait for no more periods, got one from hell here at the moment so roll on the new year!

SantasPelvicFloor · 24/12/2013 20:32

Lol at Kevin's greeting

Have a lovely Christmas you lot -you've helped me stay sane in the couple of weeks.

The good news is that I feel better!!!!! (Slightly). Progress :)

Kevinsbowel · 26/12/2013 16:59

Well I can't say that Christmas dinner was as nice as usual but it was tons less work. The turkey crown came with cooking instructions and like a loon, I believed them, so it was ever so slightly underdone. Even with last minute zapping, I didn't trust it, so when I woke up with my usual night sweat and slight wind, I naturally assumed I had given the whole family salmonella :)

And frozen roast potatoes were just like the ones you get with pub roasts, I thought they would be better than that.

Now quiet as DH has taken the older DC to visit their other grandmother and I am here with DS2. He got very overwrought yesterday so needs a quiet day. A making turkey stew with dumplings. Some interfering toad helpful family member has thrown away my pack of vegetable suet which definitely had a bit left in it, so I am trying to make them with cookeen, this could be unpleasant.

Quite stressful trying to keep a parking space for my mother. The church next door doesn't care if their congregation parks in residents spaces - there are visitor spaces too but they involve walking maybe ten yards further- so we had to put out two chairs with a big notice "reserved for grandma at no 3". And even then, some of the fuckers tried to park there.

SantasPelvicFloor · 26/12/2013 17:12

Christmas salmonella is traditional Kevin. It's the early start to the NY diet...

My mum isn't very well. I can't work out if it's just a cold or whether her dementia is getting worse. She and Dad did not come to Christmas lunch because of the 'cold' and not wanting to give it to me but I have a sneaky feeling that mum just doesn't cope with leaving the house earlier than 3pm nowadays. The kids telephoned and asked if they could skype with them and the resulting conversation left my adult daughter worrying. Dad seemed distracted and mum was confused and they couldn't understand or cope so she gave up and agreed to talk another day.

Other than that Christmas has been lovely and I'm really starting to feel so much better. The bowel pain which seemed to be an inevitable daily event has gone almost completely. I took a pill meant for IBS (anti spasmodic) during Christmas lunch as I was struggling with pain and it just went....

Is it worth talking to the vicar Kevin?

Kevinsbowel · 26/12/2013 18:25

Ah, the vicar.

It's a complex situation. The church is shared by two denominations, used to be three but they had a schism, not kidding. We did have some conversation as part of a planning discussion a few years back. While they were trying to get the planning authorities to agree to a bigger church, they promised all sorts, but they have never delivered on any of it. Luckily for us, when the schism happened, the ones with all the money were the ones who left. They wanted to build a huge fuck-off basilica right next door to us.

Bt the priest said, in an unguarded moment, "it's only Sundays" . Which as I pointed out, wasn't even true, people come all week. But on Sundays it might be nice if I could go out and be able to come home again and be able to park. Especially with these two disabled DC and all. I'm afraid it's the kind of church that only rates people who go to their church. They nick roses from the front garden if they have a wedding, too.

Kevinsbowel · 26/12/2013 18:28

Sorry to hear about your mother, though. And I agree, it is scary for the DC to watch GP declining. Mine don't remember my dad dying, but they do remember my FIL who had Parkinson's for a few years. They did adapt to the new reality surprisingly quickly.

Excellent to hear that the bowel is settling down. It makes so much difference once it does that.

NY diet, hmm, I could do with a kick start....< contemplates putting some dodgy turkey on the radiator to warm up nicely>

thekingfisher · 26/12/2013 22:59

Happy Boxing Day all ! Have been off line for a couple of days partly as feeling shocking ... And partly due to people being here and not lounging around so much!

Had a great day in London on Monda and was prepared for having a quiet Xmas eve to compensate however with terrible weather slept for at most an hour on mon !
Then power went out at 3 am and don't come back on until late afternoon we were predicting disaster - we were out for dinner Xmas eve but Xmas day woke up feeling awful with horrible sort of pulled muscle feeling all down lhs of tummy into groin and can only think I pulled something whilst tossing and turning on mon night. Felt better today scar lumpy in that region so now not sure if it's part of healing, I've pulled it or I've been over doing things ( probably) also now got light pinkish discharge for last couple of days .

However I have taken it easy and not done too much physically and. Tomorrow off to coast (in gales) for new year with lots of other friends so looking forward to some really nice social stuff . Hope you are all ok tonight in wind / rain etc