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New thread...whos off the fags, whos trying, who needs a kick to start stopping?

This is from whyquit.com and its would never just be one, or a packet...its would be every day of your life and you would regret it every day till you stopped again.

Fixating on a Cigarette

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What happens to some people is that when they are off smoking for a certain time period they start fixating on a cigarette. By that I mean they forget all the bad cigarettes they ever smoked, they forget the ones they smoked without ever really thinking about them even at the time they were being smoked, and they start to remember and focus on one good cigarette. It may be one they smoked 20 years earlier but it was a good one and they now want one again.

It's a common tactic for the ex-smokers to try and tell themselves that they do not really want that "good" cigarette. Well, the problem is, at that moment they really do want it. An internal debate erupts, "I want one, no I don't, one sounds great, no it doesn't, oh just one, not just one!" The problem is that if the ex-smoker's focus is on just "one" cigarette then there is no clear-cut winning side to the debate. The ex-smoker needs to change the internal discussion.

Don't say that you don?t want one when you do, rather acknowledge the desire but ask yourself, "Do I want all the other cigarettes that go with it. Then, do I want the package deal that goes with the others? The expense, social stigma, smell, health effects, possible loss of life. Do I want to go back to smoking, full-fledged, until it cripples and kills me?"

Stated like this it normally is not a back and forth debate. The answer will normally be, "No, I don?t want to smoke under these terms," and those are the only terms that a cigarette comes with.

Normally if viewed like this the debate is over almost immediately after being pulled into focus. Again, if the focus is only one, you can drive yourself nuts throughout the entire day. If you focus on the whole package deal, you will walk away from the moment relieved to still be smoke free and sufficiently reinforced to NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!

Thank goodness I've found this thread! I'm off to a stop smoking session tomorrow, and it's great to hear some positive things! Has anyone else done the Allen Carr EasyWay thing?

i stopped the day i found out i was preganant 15th december last year had a horrid day on monday and stood outside a shop deliberating whether to buy some or not ended up in 3cook buying a jam donut and a chicken slice instead

Amanda - I did Alan Carr. Well I read 4 different versions of his book! Eventually the reverse brainwashing worked!
I read Easyway (normal size book), Easyway (huge book), Easyway pocket book (to read as I stood in the queue for fags! and Easyway for women
Good luck to you all. It is soooo worth it.

Allen Carrs easy way is fab

Can I join??? I have till midnight tonight for my last ciggarette and that's me trying to stop.

I am trying not to panic about it i know i will in the morning. But just take it day by day i don't wanna end up with cancer and my kids have to live with my ex h who wouldn't look after them.

Wish my luck!!!

how you doing tinyfox?

I@ve been snapping everyone's head off, suffering big time!! lol.

it's just at the back of my head telling me i wanna smoke.

get onto that whyquit.com and clean your house from top to bottom..therapy

mmm. lol. kids have got the aftermath of my rage for wanting a cigg.

now dont be having a self imposed tantrum so you can storm off to the shops...
Go sort your knickers drawer out, do something and rant away from everyone!

I know i know doesn't help that they keep moaning at me dp is keeping quiet. lol. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

throw them out the house wif a ball or summat

It's scary how much of a hold over you it has. I wish i'd never started.

how are you doing tinyfox? i just can't motivate myself to stop, there never seems to be a time when i can

You still ok?

Afraid to say i have failed and currently still puffing. Got into a right panic and couldn't do a thing until I had a smoke. Awful i know and feel guilty for smoking again. No will power whatsoever so it seems. I'm a failure!!!

I stopped a year ago and am still miserable without them !!

my mum stopped 3 years ago and she still wants one even now!!

Now the thing is TF, if she REALLY wanted one, as you did, she would HAVE ONE, as you did. You remember the good ones, and fancy one of those...sometimes. But its not the same evil pull of addiction that you have just experienced.
Because wanting and having are too different things
But you know what i mean...she thinks mmmmmmmmmmmm, you think OMG...Need one NNOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW and your brain refuses to let you concentrate on anything else until you have one.
Better luck next time.

yes i hope so,

Well, I went to Allen Carr on Thursday - a strange day all in all - but I'm pleased to say that I'm now a "Happy non-smoker" !!! Actually it is the quote on this thread that is really helping - I've printed it out and put on the fridge. Everytime I want a cigarette, I look at it and it reminds me that while I might just want one, I don't want everything that goes with it again. And that seems to be enough to quieten my head down again!!

Good luck to anyone else giving up, or as Allen Carr puts it, "choosing to be a happy non-smoker" (none of this giving up business....)

Excellent Amanda If your ever needing more of that inspirational sort of reading whyquit.com is good...fantastic actually. I still read it 1.7 years later, reminds you how lucky you are not to be smoking

The Smoker?s Vow

To be said just before taking your first puff after
having quit for any appreciable period of time

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With this puff I enslave myself
to a lifetime of addiction.
While I can?t promise to always love you,
I do promise to obey every craving and
support my addiction to you
no matter how expensive you become.

I will let no husband or wife,
no family member or friend,
no doctor or any other health professional,
no employer or government policy,
no burns or no stench,
no cough or raspy voice,
no cancer or emphysema,
no heart attack or stroke,
no threat of loss of life or limbs,
come between us.

I will smoke you forever
from this day forth,
for better or worse,
whether richer or poorer,
in sickness and in health,
till death do us part!

?You may now light the cigarette.?

?I now pronounce you a full-fledged smoker.?

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Postscript: While 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce, the addiction to smoking will last a lifetime?albeit a shorter lifetime. Once a smoker, annulment of the addiction is impossible. One puff can result in a permanent relapse. Don?t take the chance of relapsing to this marriage of inconvenience.