Third hand smoke - proving the dangers

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So I'm having a bit of a disagreement with DH. His mother smokes in her house and we visit them. I've sort of come to the idea that staying in a hotel would at least give us some smoke free time.

DH says he supports me, but doesn't think that babies / kids staying in a smokers house 3 times a year, a couple of nights each time is dangerous for them. Maybe it isn't, but I hate it and hate how they come back smelling. Ds3 will be 4 months old when we visit at Christmas.

I just wondered if there is any infomation out there about the dangers of third hand smoke for occasional visits. I've found loads about third hand smoke generally, but its more about when child lives in the house.

Any research or the like would be appreciated, thankyou.

Just to clarify, at Christmas we will stay in a hotel, but visit them in the day. DH is happy to do this,but I'm trying to find something that shows it is worth making this step (his mum will be offended).

i have smoker in laws, agree that much of the research is focused on making sure children don't live in smoky environments, there isca good website called 'ash' action for smoking for health, i haven't found anything but to be honest have not spent ages trawling through. i stand firm that i Will not subject my ds or myself to what is known to be a risk. we see my in laws but not at their house!

Can't they just not smoke for the day when you're there?

Redcary, I wish we had the option to see them elsewhere, but they have pets / don't like travelling etc, so we either visit them or don't see them. They live 4 hours away, so it isn't a case of just visiting them for the day, unfortunately.

Matissy, we've asked, but it just keeps creeping back up, that I'm fed up with it now. She didn't smoke as much when her mum lived there (apparently unaware her daughter smoked ).

How crap of them, totally selfish of them not to care about children.

Same situation, one side has never smoked near the kids, one side who will smoke where they want. It won't affect their health, but it stinks. We end up immediately changing all our clothes after visits.

It will be very difficult to make them change their minds, and could end up in a massive row, we just accepted it and our kids do visit regularly.