Help! My DH is eating himself to death

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DH has type 2 diabetes. His diet has always been bad. I put on 5 stone after we got together but lost it on a VLCD. Although not clinically overweight he has a massive tummy.

He completely ignores the advice given to him, refuses to give up sugar - he stopped having it in coffee - only. He eats a massive amount at home - least twice as much as me and teenage DDs. Tantrums if I don't give him massive portions or pointedly makes himself a sandwich straight after dinner. He refuses to eat most fresh or non processed food.

He did ask the nurse at the diabetes clinic about a VLCD after the publicity about the success at a hospital but she dismissed it. I think he needs some sort of medical help to learn to eat properly or a supervised VLCD.

He is only 43 but I doubt he will make it to 50 the way he is going. The hospital see him once a year and that is it. He has been on a healthy eating course and has joined the diabetes society but refuses to change his diet - if anything it has got worse. I wondered if anyone knows of any other hospital supervised healthy eating programmes? We are in London.

If the hospital are only seeing him once a year who is monitoring the rest of the time ...What is his Hb1Ac like?

I think although he may live longer than 50 (with some luck) he may end up blind or with limb loss / serious complications.

Have you thought about counseling for him to address his problems with food / denial of his condition (yes I know he joined ? diabetes UK but that's really only lip service).

He is seen regularly by the nurse at the GP. He takes a massive amount of drugs which seem to be masking the problem for now. His bloods are ok, or if not they change the medicationHe has such a fat tummy now he has difficulty getting in and out of bed. The rest of him is thinner though. I see what he eats and it is rubbish.