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M2PW prepares for consultation re operation. Anyone any gastric bypass info/expertise or support?

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Mytwopenceworth · 05/07/2006 23:53

have an appointment in a couple of weeks to discuss surgery. gastric bypass. i know it's drastic but it is now my only hope. i also know its bloody risky, but its only a matter of very little time till i die if i dont, right?

bit worried, but also very hopeful. can i keep this thread around as my progress and discussion thread please?

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/07/2006 23:56

Of course you can

Im so glad you posted it. Will bump it in the morning/afternoon for you too.

I think its fantastic news.

trefusis · 05/07/2006 23:57

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Miaou · 06/07/2006 06:51

M2P - no advice but supportive hugs and a listening ear here

luckylady · 06/07/2006 13:31

My friends sister had a band placed round her stomach ;ast year and has lost 5 stone and feels alot healthier and better in her self now. She had tried everything... I was really interested in it when friend was telling me about it. I even considered it, along with tummy tuck and boob uplift... once the weight had gone.

Good luck I will be watching this thread with lots of interest.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 06/07/2006 17:07

bump for MTPW

misdee · 06/07/2006 17:09

good luck, and let us know how you get on.

phillip · 06/07/2006 17:11

what's your bmi mtpw?

WigWamBam · 06/07/2006 17:36

No experience but wanted to say it sounds like a very positive step for you. Good luck, and if you need an ear you know where I am. xx

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Mytwopenceworth · 07/07/2006 09:14

thanks all. i am feeling very crap atm. i have had a couple of bad appts with the nurses and its left me feeling really bad.

one nurse justs sneers at me, with no attempt to understand that depression, an eating disorder and long term steriods got me here. if i went up to an anorexic person and said "eat a piece of cake every hour", do you think they would say "oh thank you, it's all so clear now, i will do exactly that. praise the lord, i'm cured"

the nurse when she was giving me extra dressings asked "doesnt your husband mind doing this for you" in a really horrible, looking down at me tone of voice. i said "no, he loves me". she said "oh well thats nice". bitch.

i didnt wake up one morning and say "hmm, i wonder how many slices of cheese on toast it would take to kill me". you dont even realise at first anything. its my fault that im like this in exactly the same way that it is the fault of the anorexic that they weigh about 5 stone and the fault of the bulimic that they throw up all the time.

no other form of eating disorder is so unrecognised. i am killing myself as surely as the other side of the coin starves to death, but nobody cares. if i had any other ed, there are clinics, residential centres, support centres, recovery programmes etc etc. with this, you get told eat carrots and walk 3 miles a day.

well halle fucking luyah its a bloody revelation. i have an unaddressed PIT of fucking dispair in my gut that i am shoving bread into so fast i am singlehandedly keeping Hovis in business just so, for one second, i dont feel so empty, but its all so simple to cure with carrots and a brisk walk. i cant stand up for more than 2 minutes, but thats a minor detail.

and isnt it lovely that when you try to explain how you feel, all you get is that you are not taking responsibility! i know its my responsibility but that doesnt change the fact that its so hard and would it kill the world to at least recognise an emotional issue when they see one? i mean, who in their right mind would carry on like this if they werent in the grip of something that felt stronger than they were?

so anorexics, get away from that mirror and go eat cake. bulimics, stay away from the bathroom. oh look, all our frigging problems are solved.

phillip - over 50.

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mrsbang · 07/07/2006 09:26

Don't know what to say really, except I hope that you find some peace somewhere somehow too, as well as successful surgery.

Good luck with your appointment.

Sugarmagnolia · 07/07/2006 14:31

Hi MTPW - I don't know anything about the surgery but reading this morning's post it just sounds like you need someone to talk to. I was just wondering if you've ever tried talking to anyone about this before - not the surgery, but the emotional side, the depression, the eating disorder? Have you ever been for counselling? Sorry if these seem like silly questions because I don't really know you or what you've been through but like I said - you just seem like you want someone to talk to.

desperateSCOUSEwife · 07/07/2006 14:33

good luck mtpw
xxx
hope everything goes well

Pruni · 07/07/2006 14:47

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Charlottesweb · 07/07/2006 14:53

Good Luck M2PW. Your post made me

Littlefish · 07/07/2006 14:57

MTPW - I'm thinking of you. I wish you health and contentment after the next, difficult part of your journey.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 07/07/2006 15:06

MTPW, i agree that there is a definite discrimination between the two ends of the scale (pardon the pun....).

There are definitely those who are overweight that simply need to exercise some self control/discipline in order to resolve things. But that certainly isnt the case for everyone.

CheesyFeet · 07/07/2006 15:25

Best of luck MTPW. I typed a load of stuff that was supposed to sound sympathetic but it all sounded so trite that I deleted it. My BMI is about 35 and heading upwards and what might happen if I can't stop the overeating frightens me. I have overeaten for years despite the fact it makes me unhealthy and miserable. Definitely an eating disorder imo. I googled "eating disorders" and got loads of info on anorexia and bulemia but very little on overeating .
I really hope that everything goes smoothly for you and get the result that you want.

mrsbang · 07/07/2006 22:16

Been thinking about you and your post on and off all day, M2PW.

Really struck a chord.

I wrote a very simplistic (and very short) piece of work on this a few years back saying pretty much what you've said, about it being...well not acceptable but accepted that people suffer from being anorexic or bulimic, whereas there is little empathy/support for overeating disorders.

My thoughts are with you.

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mytwopenceworth · 12/08/2006 12:58

I had my appt and am now on the waiting list. Waiting time is approx 6-9 months. I am very excited, but at the same time a bit scared! I am waiting for an appointment with the anaesthatist (sp)who will assess my fitness (hahahahahahahahahahaha), I guess see how likely I am to peg out on the table.

So just after christmas I will either be beginning my new life or I'll be dead! I am thrilled and terrified in equal measure if that makes any sense!

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foxinsocks · 12/08/2006 19:34

there was a documentary about this a while back (maybe a month or so) where they interviewed teenagers who had had the operation in the US and relevant doctors etc. It was quite enlightening.

Have you been given any sort of advice on ways to try and improve your fitness before going to see the anaethetist?

proudofmyboobs · 12/08/2006 19:36

Well I hope it goes well and after xmas you will be beginning your new life

flutterbee · 12/08/2006 19:43

I'm so happy for you mtpw, I too have a bmi of over 50 and I have just started a diet and exersize plan. It annoys the hell out of me whn my Mum says to me just move a bit more, nip up to the shop for a paper ever morning. What she can't understand is the huge amountof pain I am in after about 5-10 mins of walking.
I whole heartedly agree with everything you have said and hope the op changes your life for you.

Keep us all posted and feel free to msn me anytime you want to.

PS. Are you going to come to the Xmas meet up?

SueW · 12/08/2006 20:08

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mytwopenceworth · 13/08/2006 00:03

SueW thanks. i have tried everything going for years and years and years, all the diets, all the clubs and i fail and fail and fail again. it really is do or die now. i've no more time left for other options. i will certainly take your good advice and ask these questions, thanks. i bet it will be bloody hard to give up eating, but i hope with support that i can do it.

flutterbee - ta. no i'm not coming to the meet up. tbh, im far too shy and worried about how people will see me (what they will say/laugh!!). plus i am restricted in terms of mobility. never mind. after the op i will travel up and down the country to attend all the events!!

ta proudof!

fox - the advice is to try to loose weight up to the op, as every pound off lowers my risk. am sure anaesthatist (sp) will echo that!

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Littlefish · 16/08/2006 13:42

Hi MTPW, I'd been hoping you would come back and update this thread.

Flutterbee and I (and others) are on a thread called Big MoFos. We are all attempting to alter our eating and exercise habits to help us lead a healthier life. Some people post their weight losses every week. Others, like me, simply stay with the thread for support in not putting on weight. I'm receiving counselling at the moment and that's enough to deal with on its own.

Please come and join us if you would like some support in the run up to your operation, and afterwards.

Here's this week's thread