Is this normal? abnormal? an early miscarriage?

[ComeOVeneer]

A quick warning as they may be TMI here. Have been feeling out of sorts this week (headaches extreme tiredness, that sort of thing). I got my period yesterday (I think) but it has been 5 weeks since my last (my cycle is irregular but usually at least 7-8 weeks) but this time it is very painful - (not agony but it is usually virtually painfree) and extremely heavy (having to change protection every hour). In the last few hours I have passed several large clots (about the size of small walnut) (I told you it would be TMI). As far as I know I'm not pregnant, as in we aren't trying and are using protection, but this is all very unusual for me. Should I be concerned? TIA.

I'm not surprised your heads in a mess over all of this. I guess there is no way of knowing what part dh's meds played in this, but it must be frustrating nevertheless. Is he likely to be on these for a long time? Is there likely to be an opportunity to try for number 3?
I am very cross at the dr - how dare he tell you off. Patronising, insensitive git.

I'm glad you have some space this evening to think through this, but be kind to yourself. Treat yourself to a long bath or a glass of something good - I know it won't help much ease the termoil inside you but it might help you sleep a bit better.

CoV, I feel for you so much. Enjoy the time to relax a little if you can. Huge Hugs.xx

ComeOveneer, so sorry I missed this - no wonder your head is all over the place!

I've no experience or advice to offer you, but bear in mind that your hormones will be all over the place quite apart from the practical implications of what has happened/is happening to you. Just go with your feelings, whatever they are, and do talk on here - now I've discovered this thread I'll keep an eye out for you.

(((((hugs))))

Sorry you are going through all this. Your GP sounds awful

Give yourself some time to get your head round all this. Take care of yourself.

Oh, CoV, I am so sorry. I know someone who went through this ("late period" turned out to be miscarriage and she wasn't TTCing) and her feelings of grief and loss took her utterly by surprise. Ignore the idiot doctor and make sure you get lots of TLC, from others and self-imposed.
Sending you lots of love XXX

How are you today COV?

Thanks to everyone who asked about me. We devoted the weekend to family time and I had to work yesterday, so haven't been around for a few days. I am slowly coming to terms with what has happened. Physically I am fine (still some bleeding but it is tailing off). Emotional it is still pretty raw, but I guess that is to be expected, I didn't even have time to get my head around being pregnant before I had to get it round having a miscarriage. I guess it will just take time.

Bumping incase any of you are around.

Just seen this. I'm sorry you're having to go through this, what a shock for you. I had a mc 2 years ago and it does take time to emotionally heal so allow yourself this time to grieve. I found myself grieving for what may/would/should have been and it is hard, make sure you talk about it to people in rl and on here as it really does help and makes others aware of your loss as well. Thinking of you.

Oh im so sorry COV. I didnt see this before.

My thoughts are with you
xxxx

COV, I am so sorry that this has happened to you (and that so many of us missed the thread).

You are always there when people need your advice and we all appreciate that - please don't leave MN over this (unless you were thinking of it anyway of course).

XXX

sorry you feel like we didnt care, we do care.

so sorry i didnt see this earlier

what a shock!

I don't have anything to add really, but look after yourself and try not to dwell to much on the what ifs (well, more accurately, dwell on them for a bit and then let them go).

I'm sorry I missed this too, but I dont come on threads like this for good reason

So sorry for your loss x x x

Just wanted to add my simpathy, no advice really, (sorry) just plenty of {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Sorry to hear you are going through this

Allow yourself the time to be sad about this.

Don't give up on MN, I'm sure there are lots of others on here who understand exactly how you feel right now

Take care x

Just found this sweetheart.

Do you want a visitor bearing lemon drizzle cake? I've got a reasonably free week this week and could pop over.

So sorry to have missed this CoV. Haven't been around much last few days. Sorry you've had to go through this and re GP's comment - how insensitive. Be kind to yourself. (((o)))s

just found this , a similar thing happened to me just last few days too, you have my sympathy, I did not test on purpose so i would be less upset but I feel bad about it and undestand how awful it is for you even though you did nto realise you were pregnant it still fells like a loss to me aswell, I hope you feel better soon ,

oh COV, and there I was yesterday asking about a silly yellow tooth

I'm sorry you went through this - I had this happen very soon after I met dh. I have heavy periods anyway but I knew this was different.

If you can, get an iron supplement because you have probably lost a bit more blood than you are used to and that may contribute to you feeling a bit more washed out than normal.

Sorry your GP was so unsympathetic - hope you get a bit of R&R now. xx

Thank you everyone. Mars, thanks for the offer, but I have quite a busy week for a change. I did say to QV last night we should strive to arrange another meetup soon

Foxinsocks, don't worry about yesterday, I'm pleased to help (plus a bit of normality so to speak helps - I ned the distraction).

COV, I just saw this myself. My thoughts are with you and I hope you are feeling better. Please forgive, I have been off Mumsnet for a bit and just logged on today to see if I can catch up with everyone. Please don't leave.