School has just rung me about DS1 (6yrs) ....he has failed his hearing test

[PsychoFlame]

and I am sat here crying as I am feeling so guilty....and also I can't go up there to talk properly with them about it all as I still not able to drive

The school refered him as they have been worried, as have we, as at home he is sitting on top of the TV and keeps asking us to shush as he can't hear. He is also playing up a lot more, which made us wonder about hearing etc.....

problem is, he had his tonsils out 18mths ago and they suggested then about maybe also his adenoids and grommets, but for some reason they didn't do them and we didn't push and now I am thinking that we should have.....and I am babbling now too as I am just feeling so damn guilty
he has been having such trouble settling at school with regards to the academic side of things, and recently has been thumping himself on the side of the head thro frustration when we try to read with him and do his words. it has got to the stage that i don't even suggest it now as it is upsetting him and me, and then there is the guilt that i am givin him mixed messages about the importance of homework. (mainly because we go on at the girls about theirs and always sit with them to help them yet with Max, we avoid it IYSWIM?) we do sit and do his numeracy homework as he 'gets' numbers and we both enjoy the sheets he has, yet his reading and words are so frustrating for us. they have also metioned dyslexia too altho with that they said he is still too young for that to be going towards diagnosing.

oooh, i am a mess now....guilt, and it just seems that this bloody gremlin who likes us being in hospital has missed us and wants us back there (the doctor hearing test lady asked about his tonsils etc and when I said what they had mentioned before said that that would be the route to go......another op, blah blah blah)

sorry......don't no what I am saying, but I can't go up there and they don't exactly need me now anyway, plus I would just cry all over max and embarrass him anyway

sorry again, and for the length (and typos). needing to get all this confusion out......

Psycho - why the guilt? He has a hearing problem you didn't know about - nothing to be guilty about. Now you know, it can be addressed and things should start to improve for him. I had tonsils and adenoids out when I was 4 and then had grommets at 8 - it was no problem at all, don't worry.

Why do you feel so bad? Because you didn't recognise it or because it's been difficult with his homework? Whatever it is, move past it now and just address what you need to next. He'll be fine.

ds has failed 2 hearing tests over the last yr he has just turned 7 and it turns out he has blocked ears, over production of wax and the nurse can't syringe because his ear drums are delicate at this age, his hearing was noticed by last years teacher, teachers now go down to his level and give instructions face to face

GDG....don't know really why am feeling guilty. I did wonder if he had a hearing problem because of the way he has been....I guess it's all just mixed up with mummy guilt and me feeling so crappy still from the car accident (which because of the driving issue meant I wasn't able to go for the hearing check) and there you go....me feeling like this.

I am rather spectular at guilt issue's tho according to flame. just something else today to add to the mix!!!

gdg and kidstrack...thankyou for replying tho

am feeling silly for crying...........there are much worse things the school could have rung me about!!!

and kidstrack...I hope that now his teachers know that they do the same for Max as they do with your son. at least we can start treating as GDG has said.....

am feeling a little better. Flame has presented coffee and a hug

psycho, we put ds into swimming lessons last year and he didn't progress one bit and the teacher didn't seem that bothered(must of thought ignorant child not listening), when we realised he couldn't hear normal instructions without being in a swimming pool both myself and dp felt terrible, he used to come out of the lesson and we would be like " you really need to listen to what the teacher asks you to do" and the poor soul couln't even hear especially in water. We now constanly remind friends and family he can't hear that well!

at least I am not alone in the guilty feeling then!

we are on hols next week tho, so your post has good timing. it wouldn't have occured to me that his hearing will be ever so much worse while swimming too. at least with that we are also fowarned.....making for a more enjoyable holiday as we won't be getting so angry at Max ignoring us...we will realise that maybe he can't (IYKWIM)

Flame has mentioned tho not to pander to him too much. He is one bright kid....he will certainly try to use this to his advantage. Especially with regards to asking him to come help with the family chores!!!

thankyou again