hpv virus - how do i know husband did not give it to me?

[Freestyler]

i have just had an abnormal smear test in which i was told i had the high risk strain of the hpv virus, a sexually transmitted virus which they claim i could have contracted any time since i lost my virginity over 20 years ago. however i have been married for 8 years and slept with no-one but my husband in those 8 years, is it really more likely that i would have got this virus more recently than over the last 20 years? i have smear tests every 3 years and have always been clear, but they have only just started testing for hpv, so who knows how long its been hanging around - obviously they don't want women suspecting their husbands of having affairs, but its really hard not to suspect something given that he's been my only lover for 10 years!, does anyone have an opinion or more info on this?

unless you were both virgins when you met and have both been exclusive there is a possibility your husband has given it to you.

It does not mean he has been unfaithful.

As far as I know HPV, once contracted hands around for ever - someone will correct me if I am wrong.

I am certain hpv does not have to be sexually transmitted.

1 in 5 have it at some stage. Usually it clears itself.

Freestyler, you could have caught it at any time since losing your virginity. You couldn't possibly pin it on your DH, unless of course you have your suspicions about him, which it doesn't sound like you do.

I had/have this too, and DH is my only sexual partner, so it was definitely him that gave it to me. He has been 100% faithful and the nurse who did my follow up smear said that people can have it for years without any symptoms. While I was having treatment though (colposcopy and lletz), my DH carried a lot of guilt and we have only recently started having sex again, mainly due to this guilt.

I have stage 2 cervical cancer, am just starting my second round of chemo radiation.

Mine was caused by the HIV virus and I've been with dh for 20 years. I am 100 % sure he has been completely faithful. It hasn't even occurred to me to question how I got it. I think you should let it go. You will never know for sure so whats the point in putting your relationship under strain.

My gynae told me that if I walked on the street outside 1/3 of people I walked past would test positive for HPV on that day and I read online that they reckon 80% of Americans will have some strain of HPV in their lives. It's incredibly common. It would be more unusual for neither of you to have come into contact with it.

HPV can lay dormant for years and years. I've been with DH nearly 14 years and I've had an abnormal smear, all previous smears where clear. I know it's from before I met DH as he was a virgin when we met

HPV is very common but a lot of people's immune systems clear the virus. Others like us have difficulties and that's when it causes problems