embarrassing question

[mamareg]

I'm a regular poster before I start

I know everyone's vagina is bigger after childbirth but I wondered if anyone else worries about it? The reason I ask is I'm single again and am a bit paranoid about meeting someone and him thinking I'm big inside. I have ....ermmm ...checked and yes it does feel big. My partner and I didn't have much sex and I know he'd never tell me if it was unsatisfactory for him as he's way too polite.

It's really really worrying me. So much so that I thought of seeing a doctor and getting an operation but I've read this can be bad. I've started doing the pelvic floor exercises so am hoping this will help.#

Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone had the op?

I thought it was normal for a woman's vagina to go a bit baggy after she's had a baby?? Mine certainly has and asking a couple of girlfriends of mine I'm not on my own!

Ask your GP if you're concerned, but if any lover is insensitive enough to suggest that you're a bagpus then maybe you should suggest that you're perfectly normal and it's him that's got a small willy?!

The pelvic floor exercises midwives bang on about really do work.

Being specific: if the skin-ny bits on the outside are a bit less pristine than pre-babies it is probably less important to a bloke you're planning on being very intimate with (!) than the inside muscular bits...

sorry if missing the point.

What about one of those, ahem, pelvic toners to help the situation? saw them on TV and have thought of getting one myself. I suffer from mild incontinence post DD and the exercises really help. The same ones will tone up your fanny as well. Just think the toner might make me feel as though I were doing more to help the situation IYSWIM.

You are not alone. Hope you find a man worthy of all the effort.

You can buy 'pelvic cones' in the chemist - they are like tampons of different sizes and weights that you put in every day for 15 mins or so - I had them because of pelvic injury from giving birth and they work much better than pelvic exercises alone. Phone up chemist beforehand to check in stock and get them to put aside with your name - saves embarassment when collecting. I had all sorts wrong with me and am now right as rain.

Thanks for the replies. Whiffy, I did buy some weight things online,sort of round on a stick but I don't know if they really work? They didn't seem to? I'll look into the thing you mention. I had a long labour with my first and a quick birth with my second so this won't have helped matters.

ooh I know someone (well a friend of a friend really) who went to the states for a designer vagina operation.There was a documentary a few years ago focusing on this american surgeon and that's who did it.She can apparently shell peas with her super duper fanny now lol!!

Pelvic floor exercises are more my style .

at shelling peas!!

Maybe if they do it in Prague I'll consider it but US is a bit far pmsl. Good for her though, hope she does more than shell peas with it though haha.