Smear

[EatingAllTheCrumpets]

I know I'm being unreasonable, and bloody stupid, but I'm really considering cancelling my test for this week. It's a year over due, and is only my second.

I only booked it because I'm having issues down there, although they could be in my head and the pain and discomfort is very frightening and DH has said he's worried that sex will stop hurts.

I know it's not pleasant, and I doubt anyone looks forward to it, and I know it saves lives... But....
I'm so embarrassed, I'm very overweight, and the thought of anyone seeing my bits and all my chub makes me want to cry
I know I should man up, but my risks are low, and if my issues are actually normal and I bring them up I will feel even more mortified.

I don't even know why I'm posting to be fair, especially as I know what the responses will be. I'm sure I'd be ok to wait another year, but then again I'm not sure.

Thank you TVTonight.

You'd think it would help me shift the weight wouldn't you, I have so many health issues to do with my weight, but also make losing it hard (can't exersize as much as I should) etc. but you're right, I need to do something. No excuses.

And all that about me being worth it? That made me tear up. I cannot tell you how much that has just helped me. Thank you so much.

Go get the test. The nurse will appreciate it if you are recently showered with clean feet. Other than that she has seen it all before, whatever your shape or size.

sex is not supposed to hurt. So something is wrong. So go get it checked. While you are there, see if you can get an appointment to discuss nutrition and possible ways to exercise.

smear test every 3 years. We live in a civilised country with good health care. Please use it.

Specialsubject; I will be scrubbed to an inch of my life... Trust me

I have asked before about help with weight loss, they just want to refer me for bariatric surgery. However I will try again. Thank you for prompting me to think about that again.

You're certainly right about the healthcare aspect, very lucky to have good free access and tests.

I've not cancelled the appointment, which I was determined to do this afternoon.

Wear a long skirt so you are still 'covered.' Just do it, it's life saving and takes minutes xxx

I am a practice nurse and let me reassure you that your weight would be the last thing on my mind. Also, in over twenty years of nursing as a district and practice nurse, smear taking is no way the most unpleasant task I have had to do.

Valium, skirt is a good idea and I will go with that!

CPtary, that's a relief to hear! I have a tendency to over think things and worry more than I should!

Knickers off, skirt up-dignified as possible and lots of deep breaths x

if i can do it you can!

Speaking as someone who has chickened out of going to the dentists for three years and would have chickened out of going for a smear if I hadn't been having the exact same problems you describe at the same time Jade Goody was dying I still wouldn't have been now.

I can't think of anything worse but lie back and think of england

And treat yourself to something nice afterwards that will make you feel better, like a haircut, cream donut, lunch out - whatever floats your boat.