9 month old very poorly, will this ever get better...

[LynseyM]

i cant take much more. It sounds terrible but my 9month old seems to always be ill. he has had reflux which he has just grown out of but for the last couple ofmonths he has been ill. first he had gartris flu then cold and conjuctivitis. he was getting worse so i took him tothe doctors about 4 times in 10 days and phoned nhs 24 on several occasions as he was really bad.they told me to keep him cool and give him calpol but he seemed so ill i took him to the docs again,(Im sure they had nurotic mum on my notes) the doc asked me what did i want her to do about it, as she could see nothing seriousley wrong, i finally convinced her to let him be seen by the childrens ward and within 10 mins they diagnosed him with tonsilitis (he had puss all the way down his throat. he was given penicillan and hadto stay in hospital as he would not eat or drink. he slightly recovered but now hehas avirul flu. he wont eat or drink has a teriibel cough and has lost his voice. I have had him checked over just in case but again i have to give him calpol. I just cant see him getting better.
The worst of it is I have caught every bug off him and have taken time off work to lookafter him. my work dont pay me for being off but childcare still charge £400 a month for 3 days a week. Im getting into debt and i just dont know what to do. Will he ever be well and isit normal fora babay to be ill this long.
sorry for thelong msg just neede a vent i think

sorry for the spelling, ill blame it on the months of no sleep

sorry to hear this. I cant help but thought you might appreciate that someone is out there! i hope things get better for you.

oh, sorry to hear you are having a real run of it. remember feeling similar when ds was in his first year - he'd had to have surgery, then caught every bug going, then had UTI, had so many antibiotics etc. really hard, isn't it? think ds has just had this flu with the cough. it never gets any less stressful when they're ill - it's so tiring looking after them. have you got support?

Look at it this way, Lynsey, when he gets to school, he'll have a cast iron immune system whilst everyone else is dealing w/ill children all the time.

Hang in there, hon! (((HUGS)))

My ds wa like this until he was about 2 (sorry if that depresses you :() and then it was like he'd turned a corner healthwise and things improved vastly. Don't know if it was a coincidence or not but the improvements came after we started giving him eccinachea (sp) tincture from a herbalists.
Oh and as expat says, by the time he's at school he'll have a cast iron immune system - my ds is hardly ever ill now.

Thanks folks. its just so hard being ill and looking after him when hes ill. He is teething too. AARRGHH. ill just have to ride it through but at least he should have a good immune. Its just soo hard as i feel like i might get the sack or something for being off so much but i have no family near by as ive just moved. thanks for the advice i fell a bit better now, was becoming a bit of a stress ball which no doubt will also affect ds.

Its better that your GP has you down as a neurotic mum than a negligent one. I felt the same when dd1 was ill a lot. Every cough or cold turned into an ear or chest infection and she had sooooo many antibiotics until at 2 she was prescribed an inhaler which worked and she hasn't had antibiotics since (now nearly 11)and didn't need the inhaler after 6 months use. She also had chicken pox and scarlett fever close together - i'm sure my work thought i was taking the p*ss. These uncomfortable guilt-for-no-reason feelings contributed to me giving up work altogether. Its so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when they're ill - keep going LynseyM, trust your instincts and try not to worry too much

You can't win with GPs sometimes. When dd had bad sickness and diahorreah (sp) bug last year, I held off taking her to the GP thinking I was doing the right thing and that there wasn't much GP could do. When I finally did go, she was sent to hospital for poss dehydration and I got 'told off' by GP for waiting so long.
And yet two days ago when dd had accident at gym club and badly banged her head, my mum (who was looking after her at the time) took her into the GPs, which was next door and asked if one of the doctors could poss check her over as she was pale and clammy and upset and was told no, take her to Casualty (20 miles away and mum has no car). Dd is 2 btw.