Vasectomy information/advice

[yoyo]

DH surprised me this morning by saying he would like this done and this Summer if possible. We have three children and he definitely doesn't want any more and I know we shouldn't have any more so it would seem sensible.
His main worry is the risk of erectile dysfunction which is obviously a small risk and also is there any other change (loss of sensitivity or similar)?

If any of your DPs or DHs have had one and could "tell it as it is" he and I would be really grateful.

Also, how long do you have to wait on the NHS and any idea how much it costs if done privately?

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my father, FIL and BIL have all had a vasectomy and are most pleased. my sister said it definitely improved their sex life.

According to DH it was easy peasy.

He had it on the NHS. Was told waiting list was 12mths. They were reluctant to put him on the list until our youngest was a year old but GP caved to pressure on that one. DH put himself down as available for cancellations and had it done 6 weeks later!
No pain, very little discomfort, walked home after the surgery. No change to function (!) or sensitivity. Reckons it was the best decision he ever made as it made us both so much more relaxed and spontaneous with the worry of contraception taken care of once and for all.

HTH

My dh has had a vasectomy. He didn't have a problem with erectile dysfunction or loss of sensitivity although those side effects are discussed with you when you go to the counselling that takes place beforehand.

The only problem my dh had was that it took 2 years - yes, 2 years! - to get the all clear afterwards. He even went back to have this investigated after a year but it turned out he was just super fertile and we weren't having very frequent sex at the time as he was often away. The second year was mostly taken up with work and moving again so the tests didn't get done. I don't really think it took 2 years to clear his stock of semen!

Now that he has the all clear, I agree with StGeorge that sex is much more spontaneous and enjoyable now that there is no worry about getting pregnant.

Thanks for those replies.

StGeorge and DG - did you fret about the finality of it? I have a bit of a "heart and head" problem and although I do not want any more I also feel sad about it. DH does not feel like this at all and it is the operation itself and the possible side effects which worry him. I have to say that being spontaneous again would be fantastic!

Well, I set out wanting 4 children and got my 4 so having a vasectomy was my idea, but yes, I did have a moment when I thought "Oh that is it then, no going back" and I do sometimes wish I could have a fifth, but that is my hearst wanting that, not my head. I definitely could not cope with more. I think having the chance of further babies taken away from you does take some adjusting to but if you are sure you want no more, the adjustment doesn't take long.

yoyo - yes I have moments when I regret the decision (he doesn't). I am very broody at the moment, especially because I have friends with tiny babies.

Then my sensible side kicks in and I am grateful that he had the snip. We have 2 beautiful kids and any more would only mean (more) financial hardship, health worries and stress. Our family is complete, we are happy.

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My DH had it done and had no problems afterwards; it was sore for a good few days (and swollen!) and for a few months afterwards he felt a few lumps in his testicles, but had this checked and it was scar tissue. Since then, no probs at all.

And we were using condoms, so the spontaneity really is fantastic, we're both glad he had it done.