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selective mutism anyone know much

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jolly4 · 02/05/2006 21:11

will explain more later but how do you know a child has it and are there different levels or can some kids think it is a GAME HOW DO YOU KNOW IF GENUINE?

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marthamoo · 02/05/2006 21:19

I suppose a child could pretend - but I doubt they could keep it up, they'd forget and speak.

Ds1 was selectively mute when he was little - nursery never heard him speak, none of my friends heard him speak - he would make funny little noises and point at things he wanted. He was a chatterbox with us (apart from two dreadful weeks when he stopped speaking to us too). His nursery thought he was autistic - he had lots of indicators: lack of speech, no eye contact, no interaction with others, and he walked on his toes.

He still has little idiosyncracies which are a throwback to his selective mutism - he will always be shy, and "must speak more" is a refrain which I think will follow him throughout his life at school. He finds social interaction very difficult, even now. There was a programme about selective mutism on not long ago, with a boy the same age as ds1 - and so much of his behaviour and body language reminded me of ds1.

So, to answer your question - yes, I guess a child could be pretending, and making a game of it - but I doubt they could keep it up for long. And there are different levels, afaik - some children don't talk at all, some only don't talk in certain environments, eg., school. There was a little girl on the programme I mentioned who wouldn't talk at school or outside - but would talk at home and in the supermarket, somehow she felt 'safe' in those places.

jellyjelly · 02/05/2006 22:13

I saw that programme and it was very good. I dont think a child would pretend for too long as they would forget and the other children had other things that were because of the mutism.

QE · 02/05/2006 22:16

ds3 has got this but I don't know much about it at all. If they're not pretending, why do they do it?

ghosty · 02/05/2006 22:43

There was a little boy at my old school that was an 'elective' mute (is that the same as 'selective'?)
In the nursery and Reception he didn't speak at all ... in Yr1/Yr2 he spoke a little bit but only to other children.
By the time he was in Yr3 and Yr4 he was talking but was never ever a chatterbox. He got away with the minimum he needed to get by. By the time he was in Yr4 I wasn't a class teacher anymore but I taught him Drama and he enjoyed the lessons although he was very very quiet. At the end of the year I managed to give him a line in the school play which had his mum in tears in the audience Smile
No one ever really knew why he chose not to speak. His older brother (who was in my class) was, although not mute, very quiet too - terribly shy.
I can't remember (so long ago now) whether the little boy had any psychological assessments but I know he was on the SEN register at the school and went off with the SENCO for stuff - but I don't know the details of what work she did with him.

cat64 · 02/05/2006 23:14

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jabberwocky · 02/05/2006 23:19

One of my cousin's children has this. Evidently it started rather suddenly. I think at first it was only when she was around strangers and then it was constant. They have no idea what brought it on. She is currently in therapy.

jolly4 · 04/05/2006 21:31

thanks for feed back i will let you know when my brain is rested why i askedxx

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