Depression, Lou husband left and I can't eat

[Madaleinemelia]

Me and my husband broke up last week, well I asked him to leave our house because i needed some space, I was very ill and he wasn't helping with our 14 month old son. He has a sleeping problem and can't sleep at night. Which keeps me awake and then I have to get up every morning with our son while he sleep sometimes up to 3pm because he was made redundant. I've been so sad since he won't speak to me and has moved away from me and our son, I've not been able to eat for 5 days whilst exercising like mad, I know it's stupid but I just want to make myself look better so I feel better, I'm a size 12-14 waist and size 10 top. I used to be size 8 top and size 10 bottoms before my son. I feel so depressed, cry every night and day. I feel awful on our son! All I hear off him all day is dadadada, and he put everything to his ear and says hiya dada and pretends its a phone, I don't know how to make things better, I'm only 21 and very confused, I was already suffering from depression before we broke up and have struggled with it all my life?

Do you have any support? Parents or friends?

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You need to look after yourself for your childs sake. Can you make an appointment to see your gp?

Can I also suggest you repost this is relationships? You'll get some fantastic support over there.

Speak to your GP as soon as possible about getting some counselling organised. This will help you. You may also be prescribed antidepressants which will help you too, if you are not already on them.

Do you have any family close by, or a good friend you can talk to about this in real life?

Forget about exercising like mad, this wont help you feel better about yourself and you are in danger of making yourself sick. Yes, go for a walk in the fresh air or exercise to relax and take your mind off things but don't worry about trying to lose weight with everything else going on.

Could you arrange for your husband to visit to spend some time with your son, he may be confused about where dada is. Its important to keep that contact.

Please follow the advice here - see your GP - maybe, too, health visitor about your son's sleeping.. There is loads of help out there.

Get something organized re husband. He doesn't have to live with you but do something so that your son knows that dadada is still around for him -

A separation may be a good thing right now - but use the time wisely and that includes looking after yourself. Is your husband getting help - this is a horrible time for you all.

Think positive - and, for goodness sake, make sure that you are as fit and well as you can be.