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What heppens, who steps in?

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sleepdodger · 25/02/2013 23:37

Will try and keep it brief but will include details
If you recognize me don't out me pls.
Mil has been unwell on and off for about a year she is an 'old' 60 (as in seems older)
Fil is older at 75 and until recently healthy but getting older and associated complaints - he's diabetic but never been a problem
Suddenly mil conditions got worse and lots of small stays in hosp
House is a state a dirty state
Until recently it was beautiful and in v nice part of town
They have a dog which is in conservatory and outside on has poo everywhere and I don't think they are clearing up properly so again serious health infection risk
We live 3 hrs away both work ft and have young dc so can't pop over easily
We have had many chats and sort outs and everytime it deteriorated again
We have discussed getting dog walkers and cleaners but it's very clear neither have happened and they cannot cope
The nursing staff are aware- will they escalate, or do I need to contact community health, social services etc to see what support could be available?
It's further complicated by disabled family members as dependants so I'm worried about implications to them if ss do get involved, but not living close by don't know what or who can support them otherwise
Dh is being stoical but Is crushed Hmm
Anyone any advice
Many thanks

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HavingALittleFaithBaby · 26/02/2013 09:19

Is your MIL in hospital at the moment? If she is, you need to ring them and explain the situation. I'd also suggest you contact the local social services to get him assessed urgently as he's clearly not managing. You can get charitable cleaning at a subsidised rate - it's worth looking at the age UK website as a starting point as they can show you what's available in the area.

Contacting social services is really the only way of getting help and for those other dependents too. I hope you're able to get them the help they need.

sleepdodger · 03/03/2013 20:19

Thanks for your reply
Not at hosp at mo tho back again Tom for ortho appt
Was expecting her to stay in but not sure she's well enough
Her best friend has been over today to clean house and dh going over tomo
Thanks for advice will follow up after tomorrow appts

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gingeroots · 03/03/2013 20:36

You may want to post over here
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/elderly_parents

under "other stuff "

sleepdodger · 04/03/2013 23:43

Thanks for link
After today I think I'll be a regular there Hmm

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