Boosting your libido

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What works???

spending spree in my case
and a visit to ann summers or similar

Mmm, maybe. If DH had lots of money would I be more eager??? Am I shallow....yup, probably!

Doing it!
In my many many years of experience i would say sex breeds sex!

Yeah, I heard that, but I guess I am an exception to the rule...I wanna have that urge to go jump DH...Suppliments, drugs???

FORCE yourself to do it a few times and i think that urge comes. Plus me and dp been together now for ( lets see...) 15 years and have more sex ( apart from now 8 weeks postpartum) more than ever...maybe its an age thing.
I am usually the instigator!

are you getting enough exercise (of the non-horizontal variety?)
if not, do some running or something, make s you friskier

Use it or you lose it.

i will be trying these suggestions. i have absolutely no libido and haven't had for years

How about a saucy book with your cocoa at bedtime. Works for me

If i am honest as i get older (!) a bit of saucy tv often does the trick!

saw this thread and thought you had found the miracle cure

doh !!!!

apparently zinc helps!

apparently holland & barrett sell something called macca powder with horny goat weed. supposed to work. Name seems to suggest it'd be great for our hooved friends. worth a try? I'm gonna get some next week, not tried yet but owe it to dh to try something,

Wot about alcohol. It helps to lose your inhibitions.Sometimes it works for me, sometimes I just fall asleep!!!!!!!

A bit of time on your own together, with no kids. (well everyone needs a fantasy!!!).
Better sleep. Dressing up smartly and going out together and generally being a couple - reminds you why you fancied him in the first place.

You can also have some hormonal treatment but thats a bit extreme I know. The reason I know this is I am in my 40s and have discussed the decline in libido with doc as I thought I was menopausal. I got referred and the consultant said a bit of testosterone could help sometimes. But blood tests revealed that my oestrogen was low and so I got low dose hrt. Just started it and feel a bit better, but circumstances mean we currently get no time!

I was also told at the clinic about a (embarrassed cough) device called eros that they use in the US ... I will let you google that! They are very costly but apparently there is a UK equivalent that is cheaper. Research shows it works by increasing blood flow to your bits, but I cant vouch for it because I didnt bother.

a smidgeon of testosterone should do it.

I'd have thought there'd be a lucrative black market in it my now!

I ate some really hot chillies the other night and felt the urge for the first time in weeks.

damiana. Available in drop form from Holland and Barratt. Take in a glass of water with food. Takes about 2 weeks for accumulative effect.

i think that im low in testosterone but if i went to doc and said i think ihe would think im barmy and want to now why i think this and i coulndt explain. plus i dont think they give it to people do they?

Agree with peaches about the 'date' with your DH / DP. I spent a lot of time in my pjs, bogging round the house with no makeup, covered in snot stains from dd (sorry for TMI), feeling and looking pants and my libido was nil. Even if you don't go out, I found that getting a bit smarter (perhaps venturing into jeans rather than pjs) and a bit of slap made all the difference.

It's to do with how you feel. I find I feel much better if I have made a bit of effort for myself. A bottle of wine and some decent food without bouncing a small baby on your lap also makes you feel a bit more like it. HTH and good luck!