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Given Up Smoking

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Twinkie · 05/01/2004 10:17

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Angeliz · 29/01/2004 18:29

well done Jollymum
That's exactly what i loved, when dp got home , sitting on the step for a smoke but agree about the smell!+

Twink · 29/01/2004 22:03

Northerner I know exactly what you mean, I'd probably enjoy one too, despite my loathing of smoke/the smell/the cost etc but it would never be 'one' for me so it must be 'non'

I see myself as an ex-smoker and never think I'm a non-smoker whereas dh (who quit when I first did 14 years ago) always sees himself as a non-smoker despite the 20 years of Marlboro previously. Once he'd stopped and beaten the nicotine goblins he accepted that was it, finished. Needless to say he sees life as black & white with very little grey...

You survived the day, tomorrow may be as bad, it won't be worse and you'll get there. Right I'll shut up , not before time !

Northerner · 30/01/2004 10:30

Well girls I didn't give in yesterday, and I feel so much more positive today!

SEnding positive vibes to you all.

WideWebWitch · 30/01/2004 10:42

brilliant!

charliecat · 30/01/2004 10:52

Well done everyone, dont you just wish the fag thoughts would just go away. Quite good this morning, was halfway down the road taking the kids to school when i remembered i didnt smoke...thats good for me!

Twink · 30/01/2004 17:29

Oh excellent, well done !

Angeliz · 30/01/2004 17:34

Well done Northener and charliecat

I've gotten quite used to an after dinner gum

charliecat · 30/01/2004 19:48

Another thing i hate is when my smoking loved ones all club together smoking and i feel all left out! Its really stupid considering the deathly social habit they are sharing but still...anyone else get that?

Posey · 30/01/2004 20:00

Just caught up with this thread.
I'm also a recent quitter, and an Allen Carr devotee! Just wondered if anyone else who did the "Easyway" thing but still has wobbley moments, do you go and have a quick look at the pages of the book to boost your resolve. I do, but was finding I was getting tempted when out, especially if ds fell asleep just as I'd finished shopping (cue cafe, coffee and fag). Anyway saw in Borders a couple of days ago "The Little Book of Quitting"
Tiny book with just snippets of the main book but enough to remind you what you're doing it for.

BTW I think this is a great thread, very supportive. Dh gave up very easily about 5 years ago. Never nagged me to stop, but when I decided to quit he just assumed it would be dead easy for me as him. I know I'll not smoke again but doesn't stop it being hard at times, does it.

charliecat · 30/01/2004 20:12

I am like Allen Carrs wife, I go back to the book a lot, i need reminded of why i shouldnt smoke. It makes the next day easier reading snippets!
Posey, how recent are you?

Beccarollover · 30/01/2004 20:18

What is the crack with the allen carr book? What does he say that makes you not want to smoke?

Always intrigued me that since I heard about it

charliecat · 31/01/2004 09:16

Go to his website, I think its www.allencarrseasyway.com itll give you a rough idea. It helps, even if you dont do it. You will never see a fag in the same light again. He removes the illusion of pleasure you get from a fag.

WideWebWitch · 31/01/2004 09:20

Becca, it's self hypnosis really. And he really does go through every reason you ever gave yourself for not stopping and tells you why it's a crap reason. So all you've got left really as a reason for continutng is "I don't care if it kills me," which clearly isn't true for most people!

Posey · 31/01/2004 20:23

Charliecat, I've stopped since 5th Jan. Main impetus was a bit of a panic health wise, but somehow I just knew this was it. Although I still have odd moments it has been nowhere near as bad as previous attempts. The positive feeling that Allen Carr describes is so true this time. I'm actually excited about being a non smoker. This is from someone who has read Allen Carr before but still struggled to give up and was grumpy from the word go.

So the moral of this story is...if at first you don't succeed, try again because one of these days it'll be easy to give up

Angeliz · 01/02/2004 12:24

still smoke free
Well done evryone!!
I find what helps me is, i HAVE a pack in the cupboard and i think if i am at the point where i am cryimg or desperate, i'll have one! I KNOW i wont, (or hope), but it helps to feel i can!
Does that make sense? I read that in one of the books!

Twink · 01/02/2004 15:00

Well done Angeliz !

My dh carried a pack around with him for months when he quit - it took me ages to cotton on that it was the same pack as he hadn't told me he'd stopped & I just thought he wasn't smoking in front of me to make it easier for me. It worked for him and he's stayed stopped for 14 years now.

charliecat · 05/02/2004 13:29

Hasnt everyone been great at fighting the dreaded weed this time round? I am past the struggling stage for the moment and am slowly it seems getting my head round the fact i dont smoke. For anyone struggling read the rest of thread to see how you felt x amount of days ago and you'll see how far youve come since feeling like that! Update from anyone else please

M2T · 05/02/2004 13:33

I was just thinking about this thread today! I'm still keeping away from it, although I've had the odd urge now the sickness has passed.

I had my 1st test the other night when I went out to the pub. I had a glass of wine and didn't want a cigarette AT ALL! Normally I would chain smoke if I had a drink in my hand.

I'm SOOOOO proud of myself and you all should be too.

Still no luck with DH though... he hasn't even cut down and bites my face off if I mention it.

charliecat · 05/02/2004 14:34

M2T My dp still smokes away and his chest sounds like a rattly old mans. Since ive stopped he only has 2 or 3 in the evning, and that would have been more like 7 or 8 if i was smoking too, so i suppose thats a good thing. Has your hubby tried at all in any shape or form?
Dp gave up really easily for 3 months a couple of years ago. no idea why he wont even try to stop now.

HiddenSpirit · 05/02/2004 17:54

Sorry to butt in (still smoker here for the moment ), M2T my advice would be don't mention it to your DH at all as his rebellious streak seems to show when you say anything about it (going by the biting your head off). I'd say leave it for now, but maybe make comments about how wonderful your food tastes since you stopped smoking ect. Just subtle hints of things you find so much better since you stopped (maybe not even directly talking to DH, on the phone to someone or something?). In my opinion (not that it's worth much ) this may have more of an effect than asking him when he's going to give up ect.

Remember if a friend or someone else had stopped smoking and were always harassing you (before you wanted to stop), you would probably have ended up very p*ed off with them and tell them to shut up about it (or I would anyway )

Charliecat, I am sooooo proud of you (and everyone else )and I promise you I will join you soon

charliecat · 06/02/2004 17:42

HiddenSpirit theres a nice book in the post for you, enjoy its allen carr! Anymore updates folks?

Angeliz · 06/02/2004 18:23

Thanks Twink
It's been two FULL weeks tomorrow for me.
Three weeks really but i had 3/4 in the first week! I still really fancy one now and again,(well every night really),but i'm getting used to NOT smoking!!

Well done everyone and keep checking in with all the support!!!!!

Angeliz · 06/02/2004 18:24

Does anyone feel that they could/should have done it ages ago? It was always the THOUGHT of it that was awful. The first few days are hell but i feel o.k now!

charliecat · 06/02/2004 18:36

My most common thought is i wish id never started, and I cant believe I smoked for 10 plus years without questioning why I was choking myself to death daily.
I feel fitter and fresher, im about 5/6 weeks in. Anyone else feel ggggggooooooooooooodddddddddd?!

Angeliz · 06/02/2004 18:44

i find i enjoy food and drink more. I taste it rather than just wet me whistle with a fag!

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