Think I have a prolapse :'(

[Cheekychops84]

My baby was born on 5th of August at 8lb 13 so pretty hefty . During my pregnancy and after the birth I can feel a lump pertruding from my lady bits it's not painful and I'm not incontinent well not that I've noticed anyway. I'm to scared to have sex as its embarrassing I jus don't think there is any point if I've got bits hanging out :( i didn't mention it to the GP I know I should have but I'm fed up showing my bits to drs ! Does anyone have any experience of this righting itself over time? I have been doing pelvic floors to no avail . Tia

Linda I would have lamped him too ! I don't get the dragging or heavy feeling unless I'm totally numb the only symptom is literally this lump

I could have killed him cheeky, a week of the 4 was at a specialist children's hospital thinking we had problems too (which thank the lord we didnt) but blimey, its a special kind of woman that can lose her baby weight in less than four weeks!

Mine is there as a big red lump looking ready to bulge out, but I also have a heavy feeling more inside and a feeling of something there down below. Like a pair of socks stuck up there trying to get out. Sorry I know that is tmi but just trying to explain.

i think im probably on the same level as you then. Is yours now under control? can you have sex as normal sorry but i feel bad making my DH wait for so long but i really think he will be rather disapointed finding he has had to wait for something i cant even feel anymore ................

If it's a vaginal prolapse you probably won't have continence issues, that would be a bladder prolapse.

I had a brilliant midwife in my 2nd pregnancy (pg makes prolapses more noticeable because of the relaxin hormone). She referred me to the consultant clinic to check birth options and they recommended referral to the gynae clinic at 6 weeks postpartum. The gp did the referral for me and I was actually seen at 10 weeks. I'd done my pelvic floors really well so they couldn't fob me off saying do some more, so I guess surgery was the next option. Am having it done in nov when DS will be four months, just a simple cut and restitch under a local anaesthetic. I think for some prolapses they put in a mesh and that's when it can make sex uncomfortable. It's pretty scary trusting my lady bits to a stranger though and letting them cut me, especially as I'll be fully awake! Am trying not to think about it.
Anyway it turns out the gynae I saw just does pelvic floors. Worth asking the gp if you can be referred to that particular specialist. Also I'm seeing a "woman's health" physio who specialises in continence/pelvic floors. (All thanks o my lovely midwife who referred me to everybody she could think of while I was still under her care).
I know what you mean about feeling about 80 years old. I can't face sex at the mo as I just feel so horrible about the changes in my body and I've been prodded and poked down there so much I don't want DH going near it.

thanks for your reply im hoping that my breastfeeding may be delaying it going back up or that more pelvic floors may help i have google imaged it bad bad idea but its not pertruding as much as those so there may be hope yet

Sorry what I mean is, ask the gp for a specialist gynae in pelvic floors, in your area, not my particular gynae!

Mine is totally under control, (unless I exercise - as previously explained) sex is completely normal there are no issues, DP can't tell any difference even if i'm at the stage where I have the feeling etc.

When I get the feeling I just start back up with pelvic floor exercise and am resigned to the fact that I can't exercise any more than walking, yoga, pilates etc but that is much more preferable than having a prolapse.

I've not had any continence issues at all btw.

Thank you everyone thats great or all your help. at least we are not all alone eh?? Linda i only walk for exersice and i guess 12 weeks is too early to expect me too be back to normal per se i will give it time and see how i go will also update u on how my kegal thingy goes

Do you know, it feels so nice to have people to talk about this with, i've had no-one to talk to. DP doesn't understand, looks baffled when I mention it, and nobody else talks about it. I feel like its a dirty secret so i'm so relieved to have you lovely people to talk to. Thank you!!!!

12 weeks is soooo early, gosh i was hardly out of pjs after 12 weeks let alone everything down there back to normal, so don't despair, time could repair things still. Good look with your kegal thing xx

Here is a pilot information sheet from RCOG on prolapse, I found it very interesting.
www.rcog.org.uk/files/rcog-corp/Pelvic%20Organ%20Prolapse%20CONSUMER%20PILOT.pdf

Thanks thing1andthing2 that was interesting :) I think it's very common and prob most woman have some sort of prolapse after birth. I've been googling and a lot say at least 9 months till it feels more normal and up to 2 years until a prolapse may then need specialist help .

No mention of pessaries for prolapses, these are very good especially for avoiding major surgery, only downside is having to have them changed every few months by the gp.

Cheeky chops - I had this 5 weeks after DS's birth. I thought it was the cervix poking out, but was vaginal wall being forced out through prolapse. You really need to talk to someone. It can potentially improve as hormones reduce and if you do pelvic floor, but it might not. I was trying one of those pelvic floor inserts, but gynae said a bad idea, as it was inserted ABOVE the prolapsed area, so actually added weight on top. I ended up on a waiting list for anterior repair and TVT bladder lift (waiting until 6m after stopping BF) and while I waited I had a pessary ring, which did help a bit and at least gave me confidence my uterus wouldn't fall out on the bus or something. The anterior repair (strengthening) and bladder lift were good and helped my incontinence and feelings that everything was hanging out. Unfort now I have rectocaele, so waiting for another posterior op, which I probably should have had fixed at same time, but hey no.
Just wanted to encourage you to seek advice and treatment - you don't have to live with the heavy, negative feelings this type of syndrome causes. And you def want to be able to get a positive sex life back with your partner. The waiting time for op was hard for me - feeling like my bits were ruined, etc. My partner was loving and patient, but sometimes I was quite down during that time. Also the healing takes a bit of time (long incision in vagina, which isn't minor!) but to be honest it was all for the best and after a (female) doctor said she couldn't even tell I'd had a repair op (flattery gets you everywhere with a woman spreadeagled in stirrups). So please get some help for this. It is fixable and you can have a long and enjoyable life.
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OxfordGirl, my pessary ring did give temporary relief while waiting to have my op, but I did need the op as well. But yes, did help immensely with the symptoms until got fixed.
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BTTA