Desperately BAD Midwives - Your experiences.

[leonsmum]

Inspired by another thred on things that get your blood boiling, I thought I'd start a thred on useless, careless, thoughtless midwives. Have you had the misfortune of being landed with one during or after labour and did it set you on a path of difficulty, guilt and stress?

I was left in the care pf one such midwife after
giving birth to my son. Despite being told that I wanted to breastfeed, she promptly confiscated him from me after 30 mins and left him in a CAR SEAT on the hospital reception ALL NIGHT. I was too trusting and overwelmed by everything to question this until morning when I eventually had to buzz said midwife to get him back.

My baby didn't manage to breast feed for 4, stressful anxious days. Despite me and my partner pleading for help from an array of midwives, every 30 mins, it wasn't until I totally broke down and threatened to leave the hospital that a decent midwife examined him, realised he was dehydrated and actually gave us some real help. One midwive had even REFUSED to give me a pump and so all he'd had for days was the tiny droplets of colestrum that i'd managed to hand express.

It was all sorted out over time by this good midwife and i dread to think what would have happened if she hadn't of come along when she did.

It was a horrible introduction to motherhood and shouldn't have been allowed tto happen.

I'm so sad to hear these horrific upsetting experiences with midwives and it makes me so angry when the midwives shown on TV in documentaries are always so nice and understanding and helpful!! Ok , maybe they're on their best behaviour because they'll be watched by millions of viewers , but it always makes me feel very sad to think that when I had my first baby, how I would haved loved to have had a nice kind midwife. I blame my husband for not staying with me. I had no birthing partner to look out for me so I was pretty much at the mercy of the midwives. Thankfully ,my two following births were much nicer with caring midwives.❤️

Op that is horrendous! The midwives were all lovely apart from one (there's always one!). I was induced early and had a high risk complicated long & painful labour. When I asked any question like would they need to do a c section if it went on much longer etc (baby was being heavily monitored) I was told I was being anxious and made to feel humiliated; she refused to answer! She made me very uncomfortable with he attitude. When my waters were in the process of coming away she told me off like a child for not telling her fast enough to change the pad then said how much there was and humiliated me. She didn't answer my valid questions and then went on to say to a newly qualified Midwife 'oh she has anxiety etc." She then came to me on the middle of the painful traumatic labour and said she had written it in my notes for the community Midwife to see to which I was mortified. I actually handled it all well considering and was understandably stressed when in pain and with all of the complications I had endured including blue light situation, and a failed epidural by an anaesthetic that didn't know what he was doing and was digging in my back pushing on my spine leaving me in agony and yelping on the bed because he had cut the tube tube short (I'd had epidurals before and never encountered anuthinf like this). This Midwife though I shouldn't be even alittle distressed! Not surprisingly the community Midwife was not concerned in the slightest and thought I was doing great considering (baby ended up in SCBU).

Anaesthetist*

*anything (apologise on typos)

Zombie ZOMBIE!! 14 YEAR OLD ZOMBIE!!

So it is! 🤗

The community midwife who told me how “lucky” I was that we hadn’t “given up” and used formula, while my 4 day old baby was being rushed back into hospital with excessive jaundice and serious weight loss wasn’t my favourite. If it wasn’t so demonised and we’d had some fucking formula in the house the whole thing would have been avoided. Closely followed by the midwives who told me the best thing to do was a ludicrous, punishing triple feeding regime with a cup, which landed us back for a second readmission and more time on the bili bed a few days later.

My favourite was the kind midwife while we were sitting waiting to be potentially readmitted a third time, who actually asked me what I wanted to do, instead of just assuming, and was practical and helpful when I sobbed that I just wanted to use a bottle, stop starving my baby in the name of breastfeeding and take her home.

I was induced and the midwife set us up for monitoring at whatever the standard time is. She couldn't find the best place to put the heart beat things so asked me to hold it firmly and said she would be back in 10 mins. 1hr later still no one - by this time my hand was going numb so I kept having to move it which then made it look like there was no heart beat.

At 1hr 20min someone came back and said oh sorry she went home but because there are periods where there was no heart beat we need to call the consultant asap even after I explained.

Was so stressed and annoyed!