Going out of my mind...

[daisydee43]

Some people are clumsy, forgetful, act blonde etc but I am like it 24/7 and I'm so sick of it to the point of frustration. Yes, sleep deprivation doesn't help but that's the problem, I sleep a lot but am still tired. I have dd4mth and want to do the best for her but everyone is telling me to have a break from her and I feel like a failure. I'm never prepared enough, I'm always afraid to talk invade I say the wrong thing and I can't remember anything and sometimes someone will talk about convo I had with them and I have no recollection,

Please help me before I lose my mind

Have you spoken to your HV/gp about how you're feeling?

Do you think you may have some post natal depression?

Am sure your an excellent mum

You are totally normal, I promise. 4 months in with a baby is a bit like boot camp!

Having a break from her also means you are normal, not at all a failure. 99.9% of mums on here would say that if they did not have break from their kids they would have not survived. Even 30 mns while you go have a latte and read or Heat or Hello will be worth it. It makes you feel better and then you're better with your children.

Take it as a given you often forget stuff when leaving the house or getting ready for something, so what, don't be so hard on yourself, it does not matter. I had to double back today as ds2 aged 5 forgot his baseball cap, no big deal just went back to get it.

Honestly you are doing well, teat yourself more kindly x

To look after a 4 month old a mum needs breaks.A mum also needs someone to help her ideally.
To take a break is not a failure.It is the normal thing to do.