Need hand holding. In a horrible place just now.

[MrsShrek3]

DH is ill, probably seriously as we've been told to cancel our holiday for a hospital appointment. His dad died last week very suddenly :( we've got three dc. Can't cope, can't eat, need to get a grip.

That sounds very scary and huge amount to be dealing with. Who told him to cancel the appointment? I don't know what to say, other than to try not to think too far ahead and just take one day at a time.

Oh, shrek, I'm so sorry. I don't have any experience but I just wanted to offer a hand hold. Do your DC's know about your DH? How are they about their grandad?

A consultant said don't go on holiday, and "strongly advised" him to see another consultant this week.

Nelly we are planing to do a special goodbye to grandad soon as we didn't want them to go to the crematorium funeral. they seem mostly ok. they know the minimum about dh, just that he has a lump in his neck and it needs making better. They're 11 (aspie), 8 and 6.

How long do you have to wait for the appointment?
Make life as easy as you can for a bit, easy meals. How old are the DC's?
I wouldn't tell them too much, but I think it's reasonable to say Mum and Dad are a bit upset at the moment because they will guess anyway.
And like Daisy says- take one day at a time.

Could you maybe tell them that not going on holiday (or going a bit later, depending on what you decide) is so you have proper time to say goodbye to grandad?

Appointment us Tuesday

sorry to hear this. My dh is also ill at the moment. The waiting for appointments is just awful. Once you know what you're dealing with it's easier. ((hugs))

Oh corny not you too

All the best Mrs S.
At least it's not too long to wait, although I know it will feel like a long time.
Would you be able to have your holiday later?

hope you get some good news on Tues MrsS x

Hi MrsShrek,
So sorry to hear about your situation. I can relate.
My husband was diagnosed with Advanced cancer last year with no symptoms.
Please feel free to pm me if you need an ear...
The best advice I can give to you at this stage is, don't let your imagination run away with you, and just get through each day one at a time.
Xx

I need a crystal ball :(
thank you for wishes and pm offers, you lot are lovely [sniff]

This feels like an eternity. And he's googled

bless him...google is not your friend when you don't fully know what you're dealing with. Hopefully he'll feel better after you see the Dr on Tues...the waiting to find out what's going on is terrible.

have managed a fairly 'normal' chilled day today, with a trip to the beach and macdonalds for tea . three days is soooooo long.

What do they suspect is wrong?
I had a lump on my neck and it was lymphoma. It is VERY treatable.
Hopefully it's not though.
PM me x x

Wmm, thank you. Will do :) hugely appreciated.

Never ever ever ever google.....
It would have us all thinking we have a few days to live...

Good luck for today - hope the appointment makes things easier.

Thinking of you both today .

Thinking of you and your DH today x

More handholding for you today xx

I feel for you............I have 14yr old triplets, their Dad has advanced bowel cancer and my Mum died three weeks ago:( I miss her so very much and just feel so lost.

Any news? Thinking of you