I'm sitting in bed crying and feeling sorry for myself. Tell me to get a grip FFS

[cocolepew]

I'm waiting for a hysterectomy, I have cysts and Adenomyosis. My womb is huge, causing pelvic congestion as well. I have pains in my uterus, varicose veins in my vulva and into my groin and down my leg. These are throbbing. I'm not getting out bed because I'm more comfy propped up.

I had my pre assessment over a week ago but still no word of my op. Ive been on the waiting list 5 months and havent been able to work since December.

I'm having a pityfest

Can you have I know it's early but you deserve one

I won't tell you to get a grip

Have a wallow and a cry - both cathartic IME and then get on the phone and chase your operation date

And I can't figure out how to get books from my phone onto my Kindle and that made me cry too

coco mate!!

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so crappy. Do you feel up to calling them and asking when you're likely to be seen? I thought you had to be seen within 18 weeks of referral?

Poor you; I'm awaiting ablation for adenomysosis but I'm nowhere near as bad as you. Have a hug ((()))

And you sound like you thoroughly deserve your pityfest Hope you hear something soon. Any virtual treats we can manifest through a computer screen? You tube links?

Bloody hell I'd be having a pityfest too with all that going on. I had the varicose vulva thing when pregnant with DC4 - it was such a horrible pain, and I only had it for a few weeks. I don't know how you've coped this long - especially with all the other stuff.

Who can you chase re the op? Worth ringing the consultant?

oooh - sounds horrible - sorry I know you wanted to be shouted at but ouch....

Have you put your stroppy patient head on and phoned the hospital recently? I work in the NHS and know how crap it is... I've just discovered today, for example, that a letter from one consultant to another in the same hospital didn't reach the second consultant - so no referral for me to get my gallbladder out.

I was seen in May and was wondering where things were up to, so phoned on the off chance and the secretary confirmed consultant no. 2 has never received the letter. Doh!

Might be worth phoning up, crying (always helps) and seeing where you are on the list? Can you get in with very short notice?

Basically, make friends with the secretary - phone every week - it sometimes works.

Crying down the phone at hospital people may actually help you here.

I phone every day asking, I'm sure they are sick if me. I went to my dr and Dr said he would write to them to get me moved from routine to emergency. But he's a dickhead and I dont trust him to have did it tbh.

Is there someone else who could ring the dickhead GP? Or would it be enough to ring the GP receptionists and ask them to see if the letter was sent?

I was told I would gave to be within 20 weeks. My calculations is the end of July. A woman in the waiting list office said 'oh no it could be september' so thats why I went to my Gp for a letter to be sent.

I wish they'd make up their minds. I wasnt going to annoy the secretary until my time was up!

ooh no keep phoning the secretary - they are very powerful people!

Hmm I could maybe phone the receptinist and ask.

Because the 20 werks isnt up there's not much I can do, unfortunately. It was noted at my pre assessment about the amount if pain and discomfit Im in.

Also Im sick of wearing elasticated waists like Im frigging pregnant!

Coco so sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time of it. I can sympathise with you as i am mid pity fest at the mo too.... I have been in bed for 4 and a half weeks now, have such bad hemiplegic migraines that my brain shuts down and I'm waiting for it to get going again...just called hospital to make follow up appointment with neurologist as instructed when discharged 2 weeks ago to be told earliest i can e seen is end sept FFS! I cannot have a conversation without being overwhelmed, getting dressed and going downstairs is an achievement for the day and totally wipes me out. I have 2 autistic sons and I'm moving house in 2 weeks. next week my Dh starts a new job in a different county and i will be at home on own with the children. All too much for me to cope with, just want to feel better not like someone who has had a stroke.

Sorry for moaning, just wanted to send you some support hope you get the help you need.

Oh sponkle how horrible The waiting lists are a joke. I work in a school and still won't be able to go back in September at this rate.

coco, you've been so lovely to me, I'm so sorry to hear you're sick.

As for your kindle - you shouldn't need to go through your phone. You should be able to go onto your amazon account and just send them to your kindle from there. I don't actually HAVE a kindle, but I'm assured that this is how it works.

Thanks yellow

I've had an ice lolly and my mum was round for a chat so I've perked up a bit!

Well I've got a date for the 29th of August. Bloody August! I'm never going to be back at work this rate.