Please help me word a comforting email to my MiL

[bunjies]

Not sure if this is the right place to post this but I need some help wording a message as I've not had experience of this before .

My MiL is going to find out the results of a biopsy this week as the hospital found a polyp and some suspicious cells in the lining of her womb after she'd been bleeding. She is naturally very scared about it all and I just want to send her a, hopefully, comforting and supportive message in advance of her appointment (especially as DFiL isn't the most empathetic of people!). Dh only found out yesterday that she?d even been to the hospital for tests last week. It may be that whatever they find is benign but the polyp will definitely need to be removed via surgery at some point in the near future. Any ideas of how I can word the message without sending her in to a panic (she is a natural worrier btw & I know she will be dreading it)?

Hi bunj sorry to hear that your mil is going through this. My mum also had a polyp removed three weeks ago after she was bleeding, the polyp was a low grade, so it probably would have turned into cancer if not already. She also has ulcerative proctitis, which they found whilst doing colonoscopy. It was a very scary and upsetting time for us all, eventhough my mum tried to be brave and not show it to us at the time, she told me after she was petrified, as was my dad. All I can say is be there to talk to her and try to take her mind of it, maybe talk about other things and not let on that you are scared and anxious. All the best.

You're right Footle - I don't want to make a big deal about it but I don't want to ignore it either.

Thanks sweets. I hope your mum is feeling better now.

How about something like this: Dear X, Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and hope all goes ok with the hospital this week. Lots of love bunjies.

Thats sounds lovely bunj. Short and sweet.x

OK thanks . God I hope everything is ok.

Buggering bugger. She's got cancer . We're all in shock. She's got to go for an MRI scan next week so they can see how far it's spread. At the very least she'll be having a full hysterectomy within a month. What do I say now???

Oh bunj I am really sorry to hear that your mil has cancer .

Thanks sweets. I can't stop thinking about it. This is the first person we've had in the family with it so I have no direct experience of what to say/do.