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What do you say to health professionals who question why you aren't vaccinating?

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dinny · 19/02/2006 11:34

Never think I sound as if I've researched enough (which I have...well, I think I have). Find it hard to convey that I have made a considered decision, iykwim!

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chapsmum · 19/02/2006 11:37

write a letter then dinny, put down in writting exactly what you know and how you feel and then they can go through it point by point with you and discuss your concerns and come to a mutual understanding.

Mazzystar · 19/02/2006 11:42

why not just tell them that you have made a considered decision in what you believe are the best interests of your child? you don't have to justify it to them or talk about specifics.

getbakainyourjimjams · 19/02/2006 11:46

I just say "ds1 is vaccine damaged", my GP asked for a letter to keep the HA off his back, but apart from the odd joke hasn't hassled me at all.

chapsmum · 19/02/2006 11:48

btw dinny, and sorry for the hijack, how are the waterworks in you family???

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dinny · 19/02/2006 11:57

just ask as met our new HV last week (seems OK) but she was banging on about jabs. explained that if ds has any it won't be MMR anyway but was left with the impression she will be reminding me...

Chapsmum, yes, all seems OK, thanks! for now, at least... not hear from consultant yet though re ds.

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ruty · 19/02/2006 14:23

agree with the non commital approach. I am genuinely keeping an open mind and reconsidering our decision all the time. I have met with a mixed bag of reactions, from downright bullying to openess and understanding.

Highlander · 19/02/2006 15:02

dinny - you need to swot up on a few choice science/medical sentances. If she quizzes you, bombard her with info, ask her a few questions that there is no way she can answer. Print out a few papers from PubMed and ask if she'd like to discuss them. That'll sort her

expatinscotland · 19/02/2006 15:10

I'd tell them thanks for the offer, but I feel it's not in the best interest for my child just now but I'll let them know.

But my HV tried to bully me so I responded in kind .

I wish to delay DD2s vaccinations. DD1 is developmentally delayed. No known genetic or other medical cause. She was jabbed w/the old, thiomersol containing vaccines, and although we'll probably never know why she continues to be delayed w/motor skills, I have lost ALL blind trust I had in a lot of things.

Tortington · 19/02/2006 16:02

" i dont want to, its my decision.

then there is a technique called ' the broken record techique when you want peolpe to listen to you

"but mrs dinny why ?!"
"i dont want to, its my decision"

"but do you know the ramifications ?"
"i dont watn to, its my decision"

each time giving a mroe meaningful look suggeting - get the message yet?

btw i dont agree with you either - but it is your decision

you dont have to prove your decision

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dinny · 19/02/2006 18:11

thanks for the ideas. Expat, think gut instinct is often right.

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getbakainyourjimjams · 19/02/2006 19:20

actually the dealying thing works well. I've said "not yet" for the same reasons as expat and that seems to work.

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