Testicular cancer - why dh couldn't just tell me

[themagicno4]

Anyone had any experience of a dh with testicular cancer.
After encouraging my dh to gp with 4 months worth of nausea, loss of appetite and back pain, he has had his appt.
After finally talking through the appt he casually said that he's had a swelling in his testicle too and that's the cause of the groin pain - news to me! So very shocked!!
( I certainly hadn't noticed anything).
Anyway he has blood test results to wait for and an ultrasound but as it'll be a wait I feel as does he a bit strange. ( read as frightened)

He doesn't want to mention it to anyone and as it's only a suspicion there's no real news anyway.

Just want to hear from anyone with any info or experience.
Cancer is a heavy word.

Thanks.

no experience I'm afraid but you might want to pop to the tamoxifen thread for a bit of hand holding- everyone there has been through cancer tests and most have had a cancer diagnosis - you'd be more than welcome x

It is a heavy word- I would check out livestrong (there is a lot on there about testicular cancer as lance Armstrong had it and it's very common). You could also look at Macmillan but personally I prefer tone on livestrong.

Cancer is a big word and very emotive but jt covers a huge range of diseases . Many of these can be treated or to a certain extent managed. I know it's scary but the sooner your dh gets tests, the better.

Am another of Mas friends on tamoxifen thread so would echo her welcome to come and chat to get support there.

Thank you both x

Hi Magic
It is coming up to 20 years now since my DH was diagnosed with testicular cancer.
He was 36 at the time and we had 2DS's aged 4 and 2.
Now, I have to admit that DH is always one to go to GP if something is troubling him (though not a hypochondriac!).
He went on a Friday, went to outpatients and was ultrasounded the following Tuesday and told the result that day. I think he had the operation to remove the testicle the following week. This was all NHS and the service was fantastic.
As you can imagine, I was devastated when I found out, but never let him see that, just spoke (and cried) to a friend.
After the operation, the surgeon told my husband that it had been caught early and he should have a normal life expectancy. His cancer was a seminoma.
The operation did knock him about a bit, probably a bit like an appendix operation, as this is where the scar is that they pulled the testile out through.
He had to have 3 weeks radiotherapy at the Royal Marsden Hospital (he was asked if he would go into a trial with a possible lower radiation dose, but we chose to stick with the normal treatment as we didn't want to compromise his life expectancy) and he carried on working through this and we even moved house during this treatment!
DH was then diagnosed with bowel cancer at 50 (this time I just knew we would get through it and was very confident, probably because of the previous time), had a big op to remove part of his bowel, was off work for 6 weeks, needed no further treatments and returned to his favourite 5 a side football. He is pretty fit, and the nurses were amazed at his recovery time.
I just want to wish your husband and yourself my very best wishes.
I think the NHS still has to see patients in a 2 week period if there is a suspicion of cancer, so push it if things start drifting.
Let us know how things go and if you have any more questions I can help with.