I have namechanged.
My friend has been going through a LOT of issues in her life over the last few years.
It is becoming apparent that she is suffering from some kind of eating disorder, and she is unhealthily thin.
She has always been very fit and healthy. She is very out-doorsy.
The signs we have noticed are:
Hardly eating anything (obvious one)
Cooking and baking for others, to the point of obsession
Exercising several times a day
Painfully thin
She is early 30s and single.
Now, I know her through a number of different social groups, and each time I have seen any of them, and we mention "have you seen X lately?" it is always, without fail, followed by "we are really worried about her..."
She doesn't live near any of us (the friends) and none of us really know the people she lives with/near (house share) or works with.
We want to help her, we want so much to do something for her so she can get help, but HOW do we approach it when we are not living near her for support? :(
I don't want it to look like we are ganging up on her, but another friend has suggested we sort of gather together everyone who cares about her, get ideas and suggestions from them and then one of us speaks to her in person. A kind of "look, I am worried about you, you have loads of support, can you see why we are all worried?" thing...
oh, I just don't know what to do.
Can any mumsnetters with experience of eating disorders please offer your advice as to how I can approach and support my lovely friend?
Thank you so much for reading this long post.