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Step Dad with MS wants to end life

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carocaro · 10/04/2012 11:22

I don't want a right to die debate, this is not what this post is about.

I totally understand why he wants to end his life, without the MS he has other health issues that blight his life, with pain and suffering, all excruciating and leave him in constant pain and he snatches sleep when he can.

The primary progressive MS has now only left him with the use of his left hand, he can still talk and swallow. His brain functions perfectly. He wants to make the decision while he still has the mental capacity.

My Mum agrees with him, and he would do the same for her if it were the other way round.

I just can't get my head round the enormity of the situation they are facing and what it all means and involves. I worry for my Mum. MS is s hideous disease, it takes away you ability as a basic human being, slowly stopping life in a suffocating grip. Any sort of palliative ongoing care won't help, he can't take any more drugs.

Just immensley sad, nothing can help.

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ZZZenAgain · 10/04/2012 11:23

how hard for you , for your mother and of course for your step-father.

carocaro · 10/04/2012 11:25

I also meant to say that my Dad died of cancer 15 years ago, I watched him degenerate to nothing and die. That sort of experience changes you forever and something you would not wish on your worst enemy.

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BreastmilkCrucifiedALatte · 10/04/2012 11:57

I'm so sorry. It sounds as though you're doing a fantastic job of supporting them both.

ggirltwin2pinot · 10/04/2012 12:01

I really feel for him and you and your family. It is a hideous disease and I can understand wanting to end it all.
I nurse people in the community living with MS and see the devastating effects of it and other horrific illnesses.

Heebiejeebie · 10/04/2012 20:08

I am so sorry to hear what your family are going through. Please get in touch with your local palliative care team via your Gp. They are experts in symptom management and end of life care and can advise. They cannot end his life but will not be shocked to hear about his wishes and can support you all.

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