cones to streghthen pelvic floor - please inspire me

[vitomum]

has anyone used 'cones' to improve their pelvic floor. i am still feeling 'week' down there 19 months after ds being born ( a 'dragging' feeling, although no incontinence). the physio says i have poor 'endurance' in my pelvic floor muscle and recommended the cones to build it up. TBH i have had them ages but not used them yet - part laziness, part pelvic floor bearable day to day and part it is all too miserable to dwell on. But now i am slightly less knackered than i have been for about 2 years and have started doing a bit of sport (well played netball a couple of times) which i really enjoyed. But i have had to admit to myself that my pelvic floor is really not up to it. Has anyone achieved amazing results with the cones - please inspire me.

Have heard the cones are good, but I found tantric sex with my husband toned up my pelvic floor in no time...

you can buy a device for about 50 pounds that is like an electrical stimulator which has been found to have really good results, i used one the hospital loaned me after ds2 and i had great results, sadly after having pmeumonia, ive jiggered up my pelvic floor again.

stingswife, you must be pleased to be getting the opportunity to recycle this gag again - and so soon after you last used it too.

cheers spacecadet. i'll look into that. hope yours feels better soon too.

no probs, i think you can get them from lloyds chemist.

Practice after sex - holding on to his pen*s helps you and he loves it

well thanks missinnocent and stingswife too - not your real names i know. i think i did make clear that this is a real (and upsetting) problem. but hey ho if you want to take the opportunity to create a new identity and make glib and unhelful remarks then on yourselves.

I am being serious - read in a book (best friends guide to pregnancy/motherhood) about getting gynae to check ur using right muscles - spoke to dp and he agreed. Does help honest.

Not in habit of winding people up - just too embarassed to give real name!

vitomum-when i was having physio, my therapist actually advised me to do the same thing as missinnocent as apparently its avery efectice way of checking your pelvic floor strength.

Ok take it whatever way you, want. I appologise for causing offence. If you have a dp, then sex really can be good for toning your pelvic floor, no upset intended.
Have a v week pelvic floor myself, I am working on it, but chose not to let it get me down. Have not resorted to cones yet alhtough if prob continues I may. Physio's know there stuff especially if she was a specialist in that area.
Once again appologies for causeing offence but it really is a solution to the problem.

thanks for clarifying missinnocent. i am feeling sensitive today.

i know just how upsetting it can be, ive suffered the indignity of being internally examined constantly by gynaes, only to be told that they wouldnt do arepair as im only 33, i had to go to my gp the other day as after coughing repeatedly with pneumonia my pelvic floor has gone south again, to make matters worse, the new nurse at the practice is an ex work colleague, who has now seen bits of me, even i havent seen

Vitomum- I posted other day about using a pelvic toner. I read about lady who used one and said after feeling nothing down there for many years this improved her pelvic floor muscles immensley! Apparently she couldn't orgasm before and now has mulitiples!

Not that it's just about that but i enquired cos i've had baby no.3 and need to improve aswell. The pelvic toner is about 30 quid and does work apparently.

thats the thing i mentioned mrspitt i had good results with it in hospital.

OK - thanks everyone. DP will be delighted to hear this news. although surely tantric sex takes hours and hours? sounds too exhausting. apparantly i only have to wear the cones for one minute!

speacecadet, that is grim. i keep telling myself that the pelvic floor is a muscle and like all muscles it can be toned and strengthened (although i haven't made too good a job of my other ones it has to be said!)

Oh spacecadet i was asking other day if anyone had used it cos i was going to get one so i think i will now.
Thanks

mine was badly damaged after a traumatic birth with dd1 but the device i borrowed really helped, i will probably be given one to use again when i see the physio, who ive been referred to again.

vitomum, try the cones, if you have little success, buy the pelvic toner, but seriously, good test of how your pelvic floor is strengthening up, every week, squeeze him and ask if he can feel it, and if he feels it more than last time etc, he will love it!

spaccadet i am going to adopt that as my plan of action. i know i do need to give the cones a chance but it is very good to know that there are still other things out there to try too and the cones are not last chance saloon (barr surgery). getting dp 'involved' is actually a good idea as tbh so far i have found pelvic floor 'issues' provide a bit of a grim backdrop to sex (hence my sensitivity to the comments). it has put me off to think that cos it feels different it might be making things worse. it is genuinely comforting to find out that sex would actually help the problem.

i understand, you become so aware of your pelvic floor and wonder if you feel very different to your partner, after you have been doing the pelvic floor exercises and using the cones for a few weeks, you could try taking him by surprise!, if it works you know you are strengthening your pelvic floor, im sure with diligence though, you will get your pelvic floor strenghth back though, good luck.