Had horrible virus/cold - can I visit new baby?

[alicethehorse]

My friend had a baby 2 weeks ago.

I've had a horrible cold / virus for the last 3 weeks! I feel human now (finally!) but still have a hacking cough.

Lots of others around me have gone down with this, it's the worst virus I've had in years, particularly as it takes to long to shift, and it just knocks you for 6.

Can I visit a new baby? Could I still be infectious after 3 weeks?

I wouldn't risk it normally but this weekend will be the last chance to see my friend and her new baby before she emigrates! I may not see either of them for years!

I am going to ask my friend and will do what she wishes of course, but before I speak to her, I'd be very interested to know -

WWYD?

I wouldn't, not yet.

I wouldn't. I think I have the same virus you're talking about - it just keeps resurging, I've had it for 2 weeks now and it's not gone. My 8 month old has had it and been really unhappy with it. Definitely wouldn't risk giving it to a newborn - or a new mum!

Bum.

What about if I stay over the other side of the room and don't actually go anywhere near either of them?

Can you really still be infectious after 3 weeks?

It's now or never. Well not never, but they're emigrating next week!

I won't see them for years

Anyone think it's OK if we go but keep our distance?

Ring your friend and ask her what she would like you to do.

If she is happy to risk it, then go. If not, then at least the decision was out of your hands.

I am going to ring her, but as she's a new mum i expect she may well ask me what I would do!

I want to be clear about it being OK, otherwise I won't even suggest it to her!

I would not go, it's a newborn and they have zero defence.

I wouldnt feel comfortable at all.

I just think with her emigrating, she might be willing to take the risk of seeing you with a cough (even if you let her know how absolutely shitty this illness can make you feel) whereas if she was sticking around then she might say hang on a bit. It's not a normal situation IYSWIM?

First born, or in a house with germy older siblings?

First born

Sugar my glands are tender feel like they're about to swell up.

Definitely not going to get to visit them if so

I wouldnt go,its not fair on the baby or the mum,and imagine how you would feel if you passed something on to the baby,make do with a photo,or stand outside the house and she can bring the baby up to the window,at least you can see it. :)