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Please Help! Inadvertently lost weight and now feeling down about it

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FeelingBlueToo · 27/02/2012 18:28

I know this may sound like a petty problem, but I've recently lost a lot of weight (c. 15 kg - BMI just under 17) and I'm now feeling really horrible about it. It looks as though I've developed some form of diabetes, so hopefully the weight will come back on - and in the meantime I'm eating the most ridiculous amounts of food (and prescribed supplements) to try and help.

This may sound really stupid - but I'm now quite down about the way I look, and feel. DH has finally confessed that he's embarrassed for me - he thinks I look anorexic, and I imagine people probably are thinking that. I also just know that I look very unattractive - I'm covered in scars from previous medical procedures, and now so bony you can see and count every rib, particularly on my neck/boob area. In one sense I don't care what anybody else thinks, but of course actually I do.

I feel cold all the time, and tired, but mainly I feel down. I think, from what I've read, that that is just a symptom of low bodyweight, so presumably it will improve as the weight goes back on? I feel dizzy everytime I stand up, and just got no stamina for anything - presumably that will also improve?

finally, a strange question, but any idea how best to 'hide' the weight loss? The cold weather has been a blessing in many ways, as I've been wearing multiple thermal layers one under the other and nobody has been any the wiser, but it's start to get a bit warm for that. Presumably my ill-fitting clothes will actually make the weight loss more obvious?

I suppose I just want some reassurance. I know the cause of the weight loss, and I'm fairly confident that it will improve, but I hadn't expected it to impact quite so much on the way I view and see myself. I'm down, but I suppose I jsut want some reassurance that that is an effect and not the cause?

sorry for rambling.

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SunflowersSmile · 27/02/2012 19:37

Be gentle with yourself FeelingBlue and try not to worry too much. It sounds like things should start getting better soon with your weight and then hopefully your general strength and well being.
I have had lean times in my life and it always showed round my neck/ collar bone. A floaty scarf to drape round your neck?
Good luck with the weight gain and getting better.
You take care now [and tell your husband to be gentle with you as you recover. His comments seem a touch insensitive!].

SunflowersSmile · 27/02/2012 19:43

I also remember that cold to the bone feel. You will probably still have to wrap up a bit as you get better. With a diagnosis you will hopefully start feeling happier and healthier and warmer very soon!

SunflowersSmile · 27/02/2012 21:47

Your faintness may be low blood pressure associated with low weight? Should hopefully improve as you feel stronger/ put on weight.
Anyway, I'll leave you alone now!
Smile.

FeelingBlueToo · 28/02/2012 00:19

Thank you so much for your kind thoughts. I think drapy scarves are probably a good idea as the weather warms up a bit, to hide my bony corners!

I'm sure things will improve, and I imagine it's not as obvious as I think it is, but it has all happened so quickly so I haven't had time to adjust, and I suspect my body hasn't either, hence the dizziness etc. I'm sure things will feel better when the weather warms up and I'm not so perishingly cold!

Thanks again.

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SunflowersSmile · 28/02/2012 07:02

It is a shock when your body does something unexpected/ seems to let you down. We forget that the body is a bit like a machine where bits can go wrong. The good thing is that you are in the process of being 'fixed'!
Hope you have some sunshine today and can warm up..

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