Heart disease... I have a question..?

[Littleblue]

Can anyone tell me anything about judging how serious someone's heart disease is? I mean obviously..its a serious disease in itself... but the person in question is often wheezy and coughing because of it , and exertion worsens this on a regular basis , he is on medication , but although hes lost alot of weight , he is still very overweight and his diet is poor...plus alcohol.
He maintains that he is "fine"... methinks not , in fact.

I would agree that he doesn't sound fine. Any chance you could accompany him to the Doctor?

What condition has he been diagnosed with and what treatment?

He has a left ventricle problem , hes hazy on it... tbh

It would involve goind to see his doctor with him to find out I think.

I go every 5 years to have a fasting lipids test to monitor the 'fat' build up in my heart. My dad died young - he had ischemic heart disease and his arteries were 95% blocked.

He was unaware of this, and when I asked the doctor about it he told us the syptoms, shortness of breath etc. I asked if there is anything that he could have done, and he said that unless it was tested for to check the levels than they wouldn't know how bad it was. The only 'cure' is to manage your life style - good diet, exercise etc.

Does drink make it worse..? he seems to have a high tolerance , tho apparently is not a daily drinker..

Alcohol, smoking, fatty foods all contribute. My DF was a fit man in his youth (physical work and weekends in the TA). Even as he grew older he was healthy enough - we have dogs they were walked wvery day, he worked etc.

He was a heavy smoker and a moderate to heavy drinker. I don't know/can't remember the science behind it but drinking does contribute quite a bit.

Is this man some one in your family? Do you know how/why he has been diagnosed - I asked the doctor why my father hadn't been diagnosed when he had been health tested for private medical insurance etc and they said its just not something they look for in a man his age. I don't know if things are different now (he was 48 when he died 6 years ago), but I remember thinking I know quite a lot of men under 50 who have 'heart attacks'.

I've just had a quick google, and the effects of alcohol and heart health vary. It depends on what is wrong with him. I can be considered beneficial for some heart problems, and dangerous for others. There are also warnings about mixing alcohol with some drugs prescribed for certain heart problems like wharfarin.

Excessive alcohol raises the level of the bad type of cholesterol, increasing the risk of fatty plaques being laid down in the coronary arteries

Hi I,ve got three kids and just been tol I havva heart abnormality when I presenteda and e with heart attack symts. Doc said I might have heart disease after tests.. don't smoke or drink. What causes it. Carrying baby weight. Not too mmuch. Am I going to die?

Does anyone know why perfectly healthy people get it?

thats so scary

There are many different types of heart disease and heart conditions.

1 in 1000 pregnancies result in the mother having some form of cardiomyopathy but it is very rare it causes any problems, I believe Vinnie Jones' wife, Tanya had a heart transplant due to this but I could be wrong.

If you have a problem with a valve (mitral valve prolapse is very common and most people don't know they have it) then your coronary arteries can be unaffected and your chance of heart attack no higher than anyone else.

The breathlessness and coughing COULD indicate heart failure - but really you need the details of what the heart disease is, whether there are any comorbitities etc. etc.

Or he could have a chest infection.

The best bet is to try to go to the Dr with him.

He is my bf... hes clearly more compromised by this than he is prepared to admit , but "Im fine" doesnt cut it.. he told me what he's taking , I already did some googling on that , but have forgotten the name of it , which doesnt help... but i know he shouldnt be drinking heavily , and eating less of the crappy foods he was gorging on before he lost nigh on ten stone doesnt alter the harmful fats/salts etc he is putting into his body... he clearly has a food addiction , which is sliding back in now he feels comfortable with me , I wont have that , its playing russian roulette , Ive already reduced intimacy because he gets visibly unwell afterwards...

Littleblue, why don't you contact the British Heart Foundation, or one of the other charities and ask for information and support for both yourself and your partner.

My experience came from finding out about my dads heart disease after he died, so it was more aboout trying to understand, and then limit my own risks as it can be hereditary.

The BHF will be able to talk to you about life style changes, exercise, and support groups that are available.

You can't 'cure' heart disease, but you can manage it if you (or rather your bf) change your lifestyle. It can make a huge difference.

I hope you are both ok.

His preference is denial... I'm thoughtful on this , we have only been seeing each other a couple of months , I don't want to disrespect his privacy etc , but nor do I want to be part of him sliding into a comfort zone that was/is killing him..

I dont really know what to do... if I say anything remotely negative , he doesnt eat at all.. I think his wife left him because of the weight/health issues and he's very self conscious , but he is already doing classic addict things , he nips down the post office , and returns with a random bar of chocolate for me for example , apparently nothing for himself... I put them in the drawer for the children , Im trying to lose some weight myself , and im not big on chocolate anyway..

I understand addiction , yes... guess I am asking , but maybe to get feedback as to where my mind is going.... the children like him , but his own kids keep their distance it seems.. there is resentment on their parts that he let them down somehow... think its pretty clear really isnt it

just found out hes using dating sites... end of conversation , thanks all

I seem to be good at creeps...lol

Definately a creep and stupid with it.