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They have started a sryinge driver tonight, its the start of the end now [sad]

31 replies

gigglepin · 16/02/2012 20:06

MIL.
Macmillan have been this afternoon.
She struggling to get out of bed now.
Nursing team coming in 3 times a day.

Its al happened so quickly.
Sad

OP posts:
bizzieb33 · 16/02/2012 20:08

(((hugs)))

JuliaScurr · 16/02/2012 20:12

It's a tough time
Thinking of you

Nilgiri · 16/02/2012 20:13

Sad So very sorry.

Hope the nurses can keep her painfree and comfortable.

lucjam · 16/02/2012 21:26

So sorry, hang on in there, hope she is comfortable. Take care xx

fedupandtired · 16/02/2012 22:18

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've just been through something similar with my mum so understand how you feel. She was in a hospice though as we couldn't give her the care she needed at home.

Cancer is a horrible, horrible disease, not something you'd wish on anyone. She'll be comfortable which is the most important thing right now.

JuliaScurr · 17/02/2012 10:12

Hope you're OK today OP Brew

mohara · 17/02/2012 10:16

gigglepin
Sending you lots of hug and support. My beloved Nana died 24 years ago today. She also had the syringe driver and although it was beyond heartbreaking to watch her go, she wasn't in pain and looked so peaceful. Hope you and your family are ok today, what an awful thing to be going through.

JuliaScurr · 17/02/2012 17:12

Hope all as good as possible, OP

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gigglepin · 17/02/2012 17:42

Thanks all.
She cant get to the toilet so they are providing a commode, plus nursing input 5 times a day.
There isnt a Hospice bed until at the earliest Monday, i think she will die over the weekend though.
She asked to be taken to the Hospice today Sad
Thing is if she becomes incontinent, fil & bil wont cope and it will mean her having to wait for the nurses to come.

I could go and help, but i dont know if that is wise. Will offer.
Sad
Its just not fair.

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ginmakesitallok · 17/02/2012 17:45
Sad

Very hard times. When my Gran was dying at home the nurses inserted a catheter to keep her comfortable, is that an option?

You are right that life (or death) isn't fair.

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gigglepin · 17/02/2012 18:00

No i think that would cause more distress tbh, and she isnt eating or drinking so i think her kidneys have likely packed up, im hoping that she wont be feacally incontinent as she has been and still is on morphine, that bungs you up.
no pain, just innability to move poor thing.

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OlympicEater · 17/02/2012 18:02

Sad no words

love to the giggle family

bibbitybobbityhat · 17/02/2012 18:06

Thoughts are with you. Is she still talking? When my dad stopped talking it was only about 12 hours until he died. He was totally at peace with it, hoping the same for your mil.

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gigglepin · 17/02/2012 18:08

Her mouth is so dry that she is struggling to talk. She is vomiting allot too.

I dont think it will be long, but i am not sure how much morphine is in her syringe driver tbh, i think that as that cumulates, she will become more and more sleepy.

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mishymashy · 17/02/2012 18:13

So sorry to hear things have worsened so quickly giggle. I followed your last post.

Thinking of you all.

stressheaderic · 17/02/2012 18:18

Sorry to hear.
She is in good hands - friend is a Macmillan nurse and they are wonderful.

My MIL has dementia, is incontinent and has carers 5 times a day. She is in good spirits though, and we just try to be there for her.

liveinazoo · 17/02/2012 18:22

no words can express how i feel for you

i hope she is at least painfree.god bless to you all

big hugs to all giggle family

OrmIrian · 17/02/2012 18:24

Sorry to hear this giggle Sad

FriedSprout · 17/02/2012 18:25

So sorry - if is any help when my dad was going through this he also had very, very dry mouth and found it quite uncomfortable. The nurses suggested we get some swabs (pads on a stick), dampen them and use them to moisten his mouth and lips. Anything to make his last few hours more comfortable really.

Otherwise, very similar situation to Bibbity, he slipped away in the night quite peacefully.

FayKnights · 17/02/2012 18:29

So sorry to hear, it's such a difficult time, thoughts with you and yours.

Sending you a large very unMN-like hug.

thefirstmrsrochester · 17/02/2012 18:46

My thoughts are with you & your family giggle.
My granny went like this and it was very serene and peaceful. She just drifted off. The family were there, chatting to her, my dc (tots at the time) rubbed cream onto her hands, her pipe band music was playing.
You can have a beautiful passing. My granny did & I wish the same for you MIL.
Much love to you all xxxx

BIWI · 17/02/2012 18:50

So sorry to hear this.

Nilgiri · 17/02/2012 18:56

If you feel able to do it, perhaps the nurses could show you how to do as FriedSprout says and keep her mouth clean and comfortable (especially as she's vomiting a lot).

Also a bit of lip salve and hand cream.

So very very sorry.

albertswearingen · 17/02/2012 18:57

I have been there with my Dad- it is a terrible time. We took it turns to sit with him holding his hand and talking to him even after he slipped into a coma. All you can do is be there for her. I wish your family all the best.

Avenged · 17/02/2012 19:23

So sorry to hear about your MIL. I hope you and your family are looking after each other. How are you bearing up OP?