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What level of 'ill' is too ill when your friend has a newborn?

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CharminglyOdd · 14/02/2012 10:09

As the title suggests. Close friend has a 3.5 week old baby and I promised her she could pop in any time she fancied a break (her DM is staying). It's pretty much the only place she can go for a break during the week as she is EBF and we live a few doors down so it will be tea, quick piece of cake and back. She is very keen to do this.

I have what can only be called a minor sniffle. At first I thought it was dust (runny nose, sore throat caused by nose) but have woken up with a stuffy head. It is so minor I don't need to take anything for it but her baby is still small, PFB and I don't have children so have no idea whether I should mention this in case she doesn't want to come round? OTOH I don't want to make her feel like she can't get out of the house (she was saying how much she wanted to come round - tbh I think it's the idea of being able to get out rather than actually getting out as she's a very active person normally so staying in is against her nature and there's nowhere for her to go and relax in close proximity to where we live - everything is a strenuous twenty minute walk in each direction and our other neighbours work).

If it's relevant baby had his first sniffle/cold two weekends ago. I don't know what to do for the best. Can any Mums tell me whether this level of so-small-I'm-not-strictly-ill would be a problem please? I feel silly even posting this but I want to be a good friend.

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imaginethat · 14/02/2012 10:19

Tell her so she can decide. She can bring baby but maybe you don't breathe over baby. Or she may feel more comfortable waiting until you're better. She will appreciate you telling her. Nothing worse than a run of colds in a little baby. (well, there is, obviously, but it's avoidable)

LikeAnAdventCandleButNotQuite · 14/02/2012 10:19

It wouldnt bother me, and I think unless you're hugging and kissing LO excessively, they would be ok. Fwiw, I had a cold when my newborn was 4 weeks old and she caught it, and was not a pick of bother, though I did feel sorry for her with her snuffly nose.

Babies will catch things.

I'd maybe text/call and say "am so looking forward to having a catch up and a squidge of your lovely baby. I've got the sniffles at the moment, would you prefer to hold off a week, for baby, or do you think it will be OK?"

CharminglyOdd · 14/02/2012 10:46

Thank you :) I have sent her a text. I'm not worried about missing out on baby squidges - all our friends are having babies at the minute so we are lucky we have been able to take our pick in the last few weeks Grin

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Reenypip · 14/02/2012 14:52

I would tell her and she can decide.
Just because have had a cold already doesn't mean to say will get again. There are thousands of different bacteria and virus'.

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