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drinking too much wine

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phoenix2 · 06/02/2012 20:03

hi all

i think i have a problem with alcohol and if i think i do then i probably do.

i have always been fond of a glass of wine but over the past months it has become a huge part of my week. At the moment i am going through a very messy seperation so am curently a single mam of three - working full time. My health is not great and i look like absolute crap. Most people would would put this down to stress but they dont know that i am drinking the guts of a bottle of wine 3 and on a bad week 4 nights per week. I am doing this alone when the kids are in bed. It is very much my secret and it is something that i am very ashamed of. I usually open the bottle and say i'll just have one glass but i never ever stop at one or two but i can stop after three. What does this say about me?

Lots of people i know can drink a bottle of wine its very socially acceptable amoung my friends but not to the extent i am doing it and not on their own.

I am getting through work on the days following drinking but am very below par and tend to hide away in my office most of the time. I am trying to cover up too in case i smell of drink so am wearing loads of perfume and makeup and chewing gum. It is exhausting having to pretend like this all the time. The days when i haven't been drinking the night before i am in top form and swear that i will cop myself on.

At the moment i try and keep it to fri, sat and sun and think i am brilliant if i dont have any mon - thurs. But then i am only half functioning at the weekend and this is not fair to my kids. I am up and doing all the things that need to be done but obviously am not being as good a mother as i can be. The amount of sat morning i wake up and think that ill go to bed early tonight and then beofre i know it i am in the supermarket buying myself another bottle.

I seem to have lost the ability to just relax at the weekends without having 3 glasses of wine.

So i need a bit of supprt to help me to stop and to get fit and healthy and looking good again. If i keep going like this i know i will end up with a serious problem and i dont' want that to happen. I have enough problems as it is.

So any advice would be very welcome. I think it would be helpful for me to keep a sort of diary on here and that might help me stay on the straight and narrow.

Even as i am typing this i am still thinking that i don't want to give it up altogether but that is probably the closet alcoholic talking. Is there a way i can learn to just have a couple of glasses - drink like normal people??

OP posts:
SixtyFootDoll · 06/02/2012 20:07

Have you tried drink aware web site?

Buy some nice soft drinks to sip on, like peartise.
Don't be too hard on yourself as you are having a tough time.

kohl · 06/02/2012 20:10

Oh Phoenix, you've been really brave to post, and I'm sorry that you're having a shit time. Have you seen the Brave Babes threads in Relationships? They are so so lovely, really supportive of one another as they all battle with booze issues. It may be another place to post.

Have you talked to a friend in RL about this?

jkklpu · 06/02/2012 20:16

Can you put the money you'd spend on wine away somewhere and give yourself some kind of treat after 2 weeks, or a big one after a month, something to look forward to a lot?

kohl · 06/02/2012 20:16

The BB thread is here

When you find yourself reaching for the second glass could you intersperse it with something soft, or just take a few minutes to work out why you want it?

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