does anyone know of anyone who fell pg naturally at 47?

[paisleyII]

just turned 47, was ttc for second child for nearly 8 years, long since stopped ttc. feel really weird, have done for a few weeks. funny really as never occured to me that i may be pg, have mixed feelings about it really although doubt that i am but always possible. just wondered (af is very late plus had an odd show a few weeks ago but put all down to age). in think it is really funny as a year or so ago i would have automatically thought i was pg, and yet now it has only just come into my head as i have had really weird tummy sensations and feel light headed etc. a large part of me doesn't want another as i feel too old and love my life as it is although there will always be a part of me that grieves for the second child i never had (i would be over the moon if i were even though it would be madness), cheers

I'll watch with interest BTW It is annoying how expensive those tests are. I think I've seen that you can pick them up for a £1 - can't remember wher though - maybe Wilkos?

paisley thankyou and good luck.

Thursday is later in the week! If nothing has happened overnight get yourself to poundland or superdrug . . . .

Sorry to be a voice of caution but my medical background suggests that other causes of your symptoms need to be investigated and soon. I would see your GP asap.

tooth - which cancer? ovarian or uterus? i had a scan of these areas about a year and a half ago and have recently had a negative smear........

Toothbrush I think you have to be more specific if you don't want to alarm the OP. Having had investigations over the last 2 years for an ovarian cyst and post meno bleeding, I have to say that none of her symptoms point to a gynae problem.

OP this might be asking for tmi- but if you have had sex without using contraception/ failed contraception then the first likely explanation of a misssed period id being PG.

If not, then it's likely to be the menopause. You should stop dithering and just do the test!

thanks amel but i am already alarmed! although it doesn't take much, i am a bad health worrier. anyway, usual crap, i am not pg as just done a test. i have also made a dr appointment thanks to tooths recommendation and was lucky to get an appointment and with the lovely lady dr there. tbh, having been a worrier of ladies health for years i am quite familiar with ovarian cancer symptoms and even for a worrier like me it hadn't occurred to me that it might be that. my periods are mostly pretty uneventful although i do have some months that are odd but have had them checked out before (scans about 1 1/2 years ago). i had a weird pinkish 'blead' (tiny bit) the day my af was due but stopped but generally no odd bleeding. i haven't had uterine pains, proper pains, just the odd weird minor/light twinge and have been bloating only the last roughly week/4 days and af is overdue. as for tiredness, more virally weird which came on nearly two weeks ago and dh has had it for a week so if i am honest i am not overly concerned but will still go to dr. i think i am relieved that i am not pg although part of me wanted to be and also, if i were pg then i wouldn't be worrying as i am now about possibly problems downstairs, nice start to the year...not :(

just went to see dr, she is lovely - she gave me an internal and an external and said she thought it all felt fine and could feel anything larger than it should be although will still send me for a scan just to be sure and is also doing thorough blood test. i feel like i am having an mot. am hoping the tiredness/weird head is viral and the downstairs bloated oddness just my age and mad unpredictable cycle. still relived that i am not pg which is a good thing - found myself watching a women struggling with two young kids this morning and was thinking i am so pleased i don't have to go through that again although i know there is still a part of me that would in a blink of an eye :)

paisley -I'm glad you went. I am sorry to you, if I alarmed you, but the tale you described suggested a review would be a safe thing to do

amelia - you say be more specific. I hesitated because saying ovarian cancer is a bit blunt...but it has been said now. Ovarian cancer sneaks up with weird symptoms like odd tummy sensations. Some ov ca have solid components swinging in a cyst which mimic fetal movements. I know this because I've scanned a fair few women in exactly the same situation as the OP....and vice versa when their cancer turned out to be a baby. It was too important for me to ignore. I know that advice would be scary but tbh I did think and still do that symptoms like that in a 47 yr old suggest an immediate GP visit.

The GP has excluded lumps and bumps and that is good news. A cyst as described above would be palpable by the GP so you can relax OP.

Making this sort of comment on a website feels rotten tbh....but it would be more rotten to say nothing.

Paisley - your posts sound very much like a good friend of mine (we're the same age). Nothing to add to what's been sad but your words touched a chord. I hope you are ok.

Been said, sorry.

Sorry paisley glad your GP was good.

belle - those were really sweet much appreciated kind words, ta :)

tooth - even though it scared the shit out of me (your original post) i was glad for it as lord forbid if there was something wrong it would be because of you that it got descovered as i would not have gone to the dr as i was only thoroughly scanned 18 months ago. the dr had a good prod around (inside and over my uterus) and said she thought it all felt normal, no swellings etc although until i have had a scan i will be worried, only natural). i have a real fear of ovarian. i have always been pretty good and got female things checked and often paid for the privilige (as wrong as that is) just to put my mind at rest. over the years in my forties i have gone through phases of being REALLY bloated with sensations as if i was going to either come on or thought i was pg (weird dings etc) but so far the scans have been clear. dr seems to imply probable peri meno' madness of which this i know is unpredictable and can come in many forms. i HATE having scans, the silence whilst the sonographer looks carefully at the screen. i never look at the bloody thing incase i see something that i think looks like a lump......thanks for your post

cheers dozer although tbh i feel more relieft that i am not than disappointment. dh is relieved too, i can tell for lots of practical and selfish reasons (me too). i am SO bloated and feel as if i will come on any minute, i get this some months so am not too alarmed, just as well i did that test otherwise i would be sitting here choosing names. dh and i both don't feel well, both of us seem to have some (self diagnosed) kind of viral thing, both feel wiped out, fortunately dd doesn't seem affected by it. i will have a blood test tomorrow but i know virus's don't show up and dr cannot do anything for them anyway. both dh and i have hazy odd feeling heads, not headaches. dr said there are alot of virus's going round. still a little disappointed though, would love to have cuddled another baby. sometimes when in a supermarket and i see a women walking along cradling her ie 8 month old baby it kills me, the ache is almost too much to bear (this is when i may have a little cry in the vegetable section....)

Yes, she was 48. She was and .

I don't think it's the virus they look for at first, more a raised White blood cell count to indicate your fighting something off.

My sister's BF fell pregnant with twins at 49 - so naturally she didn't know about it till she was 3 months pg. She thought she was in menopause, as her periods had stopped, and went to see her gynae - she had two grown up daughters, but had just re-married (a younger man, maybe had something to do with it?!? )

She is now 56 with 7 year old twins.

Hvae you taken a test?

Sorry, Paisley, I hadn't read the rest of your thread - ignore my question

And fwiw, I totally understand the sense of loss (and the relief!). I had 4 m/cs, and ended up resorting to assisted conception in my 40s, twice, in order to have my dds. I'll never forget the longings, both times.

eli - you are one of the lucky ones, a women in her 40's who fell back on fertility treatment and it worked, more than once. most women who have fertility treatment find it doesn't work, i am one of them. alot of women put off ttc thinking they will get pg having ie ivf although they have been fed wrong information, most women don't fall pg with assisted help. i guess your fertility just needed a little nudge in the right direction for it to have worked both times. i had a friend who too went through many mc's but ended up naturally having at least two more children. i guess as lucky as i am having one at all, i pulled a short straw when it came to fertility longevity, i am the only female i know who has not achieved a single pregnancy in her 40's and i tried alot more and for longer than the others. am i bitter? yes! nah, only sometimes when i am feeling sorry for myself which fortunately isn't often, only when i get reminded of what i longed for for years but was denied to me

Paisley I just had a thought, I was on an american site ages ago reading about IVF and there were women on their who had achieved better quality eggs, and more of them at ovulation (ivf ovulation not normal ovulation) by taking royal jelly.

I get mine freeze dried off amazon from an american seller. It's much cheaper than the fresh stuff in capsules and it doesnt go off like the fresh capsules do either. I think it's £11 for two months supply.

We have a relative who has recurrent mc and she hasnt achieved a pg in her 40s due to poor egg quality, she ovulates with IVF but the pg doesnt implant.

dear fluff, your thread was really sweet & refreshing, it has been a long time since someone gave me some upbeat suggestions of new things i could try. but it is too late for me and i accept it, i feel better since i came to the conclusion that this is my lot. i am more than lucky to have a child already. i have had 8 years of trying various things, it just isn't meant to be for me, late pregnancies (for older women) happen to other women, this is just how it is, i can't have everything. and tbh, i don't really think i want another child although i would be overjoyed if i were to ever fall pg, but truth is, i feel too old and would never do any more fertility treatments or enhancing things. i have done enough over the years to know that they won't work for me although do for many. i feel better since i accepted this although still have my moments. i wish you all the luck in the world. have you tried acupuncture? i went to a great place in london for about a year and a half. didn't work for me but i put this down to my age, it may work for you, it has worked for many women, they specialise in infertility...x