How can I best support DH to quit smoking?

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DH smokes roll-ups, maybe 10 a day or so.

He told me he was going to give up when DD was born. That was 2 years ago.

DC2 is due in April, and he has promised to quit by the time she/he arrives.

I've tried being supportive, sign posting to stop smoking schemes etc etc. Most of his friends have now quit, and I banned smoking in the house when I found out I was expecting DD.

This is really down to a practical issue - I want to co- sleep with the new baby, as I did with DD, but we've run out of beds. Essentially it's come to the point that if he doesn't give up, he'll have to sleep on the couch/camper van/shed when new baby arrives. He is aware of this and agrees.

Any ideas how to approach this?

Get rid of the couch and ampere van, for a start. They sound way too comfortable.

I agree - he's probably thinking this is a win win situation. Peace and quiet and able to carry on smoking!

To be fair though he is extremely fond of our bed, so it would be a hardship.

CAMPER van, obviously.

I think that there is a limit to how supportive you can be, as it doesn't really sound like he wants to give up yet

Giving up is really hard and IMO you can't be told / guilt tripped into doing it. he has to really want to give up, or you will just end up with a secret smoker / rowing about fags at an already stressful time.

Once he has decided to give up, you jut have to batten down the hatches and get through the first few weeks of bad moods, irrational rage etc without killing him. Plenty of positive reinforcement etc.

Maybe buy him a copy of the Allen Carr book? That gets a lot of recommendations, is basically a whole books worth of NLP from what I recall.

Thanks Grumpla really good ideas.

Yes, he isn't hugely motivated really, and I know I can't force him. I gave up 6 years ago when my dentist told me if I didn't give up my teeth would fall out by the age of 35 - that was a very good motivator for me! (btw not a general warning for all smokers - I had crap gums anyway)

I'll try the Alan Carr books, thanks.

It is ultimately his decision. You can just be there for him. And obviously, you not smoking helps. I've been battling this for years. And we never co-slept, because of the smoking thing. But at least I have been adamant about not letting the fags back into the flat. It shocks and appalls me how many people start smoking indoors again once their children are past the baby stage. Good luck.