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I'm so depressed about my weight, please help

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amouse · 13/01/2006 21:30

I am a regular mnetter but dont want people to know who I am for this, as they would think I was stupid.
I am 9 1/2 stone, which I know is a weight lots of people would like to be but I dont want to be. Before i had my bub I was 7 stone 12 and loved being skinny. Every time I look in the mirror now I want to cry, everything looks so flabby and disgusting, i cant have sex with dh because I dont want him to see me naked. I've started smoking again after 2 years without in a bid to keep the weight down but if dh knew he would go crazy so instead of smoking in the evenings I over-eat.
I just need some motivation I think to stop binging in the evenings and do some exercise instead, I long to look like I used to

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Lonelymum · 13/01/2006 21:33

That longing to look like you used to should be the incentive you need. How long since you had your baby? Have you realistically given your body enough time to get back to normal?

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amouse · 13/01/2006 21:37

yes I have, after my first I went back to normal but this pregnancy took its toll. I keep saying I will make the effort and will get back to my original shape but then I start eating and it all goes out the window

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Lonelymum · 13/01/2006 21:39

Are you eating for another reason then? Could you try to address why you overeat in the evenings? Sorry, I am not much good at this weight losing thing (because I don't need to) but I hope someone else will have some advice for you.

busywizzy · 13/01/2006 21:40

Amouse, come and join us on this thread 'Big/ Slim/ Whatever Weight Loss Club - Lardy Ladies Club Weigh in Week 2 10th Jan' We're all aiming to loose a stone and weigh in every Tuesday. We post our weight loss and one of the 'gang' does a chart so we can all see how we're doing.

I'm finding it really inspirational and lost 4lb in the first week. I'm eating healthier and am exercising too. I have a DS who is only 9 months and haven't been able to shift that last bit of weight upto now.

I know what you mean about feeling awful when you look in the mirror. I'm 5'10" and usually weigh just under 10 stone (which I think is OK for someone so tall). I'm now 11 stone though so am really hoping this helps me get rid of that final bit and I can feel like the 'old' me again.

Come and join us

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amouse · 13/01/2006 21:43

thanks busywizzy, I did think about it but couldnt face all those 'oh I wish I could be 9 stone' comments that I get from people all the time.

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Furball · 13/01/2006 21:46

well I am the chart keeper and I can tell you there are 2 or 3 at 9 stone and loads at just 10, so I wouldn't worry about it.

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amouse · 13/01/2006 21:48

thanks you lot, maybe I will go and introduce myself

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foundintranslation · 13/01/2006 21:55

You sound a lot like me amouse. I weighed about 7 stone 11 before being pg and now - ds is nearly 8 months - weigh just over 9 stone. I actually think it may be unrealistic to weigh as little as I used to - I have had a child after all. My tummy is a nightmare but due to flab rather than fat, and otherwise I'm actually quite reconciled to things, even though I would like to lose maybe half a stone and certainly not put on any more. You probably look a bit untoned (I do), but certainly not 'flabby and disgusting' (a couple of people have said they think I look nice with a bit more curves on me) - it's just hard getting used to a new 'idea'/image of yourself.
By all means actively go about losing weight but I just wanted to give you a slightly different perspective.

busywizzy · 13/01/2006 21:58

Hello Furball

One of the gang got a bit of that at the start and she just said - I used to weigh much less and I'm not happy being 9 stone - and everyone shut up

Come on, join us and make Furball's chart even bigger You have to post each day what you've eaten, drunk and what exercise (although not everyone does this). I promise you I'll give you a hard time if I see you've been evening snacking

busywizzy · 13/01/2006 22:02

FIT I agree that you have to be realistic after having a baby - I've had two and my body has changed after both of them. I was half a stone heavier after DD1 and was happy about that as I was always a bit too scrawny looking. But after DS, I felt flabby and yucky as well as too heavy.

Now I feel better just for having decided to take control and do something rather than just complaining about it.

Good luck amouse, whatever you decide.

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